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发表于 2012-10-22 13:14:23
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Do you agree or disagree? It is more important to keep your old friend than it is to make new friends.
The importance of friendship have been emphasized countless times by people. Undoubtedly we have reached the consensus that friendship has been the most important, if not, among the most important ingredients of lives of people. However, the issue comes with, should we focus on keeping old buddies or making new one? I, as someone who easily falling into mood of nostalgia, tend to exert most efforts on keeping relationship with old friends.
Friendship is valued for its "quality", instead of "quantity". Driven by the modern social development, the pace of life has been accelerated to an unprecedented extent. People especially grownup bear more pressure and tend to live more dependently than ever before, resulting in significant feeling of loneliness. Even though we may meet lots of new people during daily life, in business, in gym, or in a dinner. We may say hello, shake hands, talk and kill time, hardly do we really reveal the real minds of us---as they don't really know us, that's just social intercourse. By the time we're really in trouble, we're down or we are facing setbacks on our works, it's those old friends who can really understand us, who can rely on and who save us from disappointment. When we experiencing embarrassed situation , having a nice dream last night, or meeting someone that we're kind of into, it's those friends we'd love to share with, in spite of good one or bad one, it's always the most pleasant experience that someone can share your happiness and bear your sorrow.
Friendship is also valued for "maintainance", other than "replace". Ubiquitous the experience is that many people may have encountered such situation, Getting a stack of business cards after a party, but hardly you can recognize who is it just a few days later. People are always chasing for what they have not have yet, while easy to ignore those they have had, and that's not the way of fostering friendship. After I went abroad towards US, I got so busy catching my school schedule that somehow contact minor times with my old guys who have been my best friends in college. Once we met on the facebook and we talk, I felt that we have kind of far away from, not physical distance, but heart. I felt so sad about that and after that, I talk to my old guys routinely and ask each other what's going on recently. So keep an eye on connecting with your old friends, it's more important than make new one.
"Time will tell", that's my motto and something I always believe in. You're less likely to perceive that if a guy would be your friend especially when you just met him/her. According to a psychological research, people tend to conceal their real personalities when they meet someone fresh. However as the time goes by, they are inclined to detach their "makeup" and behave towards their real characteristics. So that's the point I want to emphasize, as I mentioned above, we can share our happiness and sorrow to our old friends because we are so close that we have nothing to conceal. That's the feeling of trustiness, since after such a long relation, you know him well. On the contrary, start to know someone fresh can be time-consuming. Much less, the result may be unpleasant, the one you want to be friends maybe not the one that fit.
To sum it up, it's feasible to make new friends. But, keeping old friends should always be placed as the first priority, and reason is simple--they're more important to you. |
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