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8.9 独立写作 you can know a lot about a person through the types of friends this person has. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 思路: [第一段:支持]朋友可以互相影响 E.g. 从前不喜欢摇滚, 遇到喜欢摇滚的朋友后开始爱上摇滚 [第二段:支持]相同兴趣的人容易成为朋友 E.g. 科学家做实验, 幼儿园里外向的孩子之间容易成为朋友, 而内向的孩子会在一起玩 [第三段:让步]也有不受外界影响的例子, 但是很少, 大部分人还是会受别人影响的 E.g. 也有从不好的学校考上特别好的大学的, 但是数量很少
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Whether a person could be judged from evaluating his or her friends is relatively a subject to discuss. The extent to which a person can balance between being influenced by the surrounding and remaining his own personalities unchanged makes it difficult to decide the effect brought by friends. However, if one considers the following reasons, he or she might agree with the title statement as I do.
At the very beginning, strong and long-term friendship will result in common value and similar interest. This point can be perfectly illustrated by my own experience. Before I entered the university, I knew little about the rock music. However, one of my roommates Swally was crazy about rock & roll. After being friends with Swally for three years, I began to listen to songs in this category and gradually found the fascination inside them. I am half a rock fan now. Sometimes I even scream and jump for some rock group together with Swally! Communicating and sharing information every time can reshape different individuals, narrow the gap between them, and finally build them similar with each other. In this way, when judging a person, you can always find the shadow of his friends.
The very early step for friends to become alike is not happened after the building of the friendship. Instead, when looking for the potential friends, people tend to find those who are similar with themselves. An interesting experiment can be used to support this point. In this research, in order to study the friend-making behavior, a class of children in a kindergarten was observed by a group of scientist. Scientists found that those children who are extroversions tend to gather together, making noises and playing sports. While those introvert children built another group and painted pictures together. It is even more surprising that children in different group seldom communicate with each other. Therefore, people with similar personalities are more likely to become friends.
Granted, the existence of people who are seldom influenced by surrounding is undeniable. However, as only countable students who graduated from bottom schools can be admitted by TOP universities, this case is not suitable for the general situation. For the majority of people, therefore, their personal quality and value can be reflected in his choosing and enhancing of friendship.
Taking into account all the factors discussed above, I am fully convincing that friends should be treated as one of the most essential elements when evaluating a person. Consequently, if there is anyone who still wonder the changes a friend can bring to a person, who still doubts the decisive role played by friendship, and who still does not understand how friendship can shape a person, this passage is my answer.
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