lz, you might be right. i'm starting to figure that you didn't tell him about you mba approach because you know, subconsciously, that if you tell him everything, he will be able to make an impact on your decision. and that decision, will be against your better judgement. 'coz this man sounds very persuasive, a bit slippery if i'm to be more assertive-- i may know nothing about him but your hesitation in showing him and your relationship enough trust has said it all. many people here are right. you know that answer even though you don't wanna admit. and, honestly, your relationship is already screwed from the moment you decided to make this big a decision by yourself. confront yourself as a start. that answer's been in you all this time. -- by 会员 WendyT (2011/3/6 21:35:09)
Sometimes a lack of trust occurs not because the guy is at fault, but because you are not courageous enough. And when you are not courageous enough, running away from trust (or, taking the easy way out, and choosing your own selfish path), makes you even less courageous.
Trust does not simply depend on who you're trusting. In fact, more often than not, it depends on you- whether you know how to trust. Which is why I said selflessness, trust and commitment, like all skills, take practice. The less you do it, the worse you get at it. |