高龄全职妈妈2011年决战上海————！！！

papaya730

今天效率不高。 晚上又睡不着，在法律区看了一个帖子，是一个讽刺小品，关于年龄歧视，收藏，作为鞭策。
I received an e-mail asking me to comment on age discrimination in law firm hiring:

"A few weeks ago, there was a terrible article in the National Law Journal about how 'older' or second-career lawyers most often end up as solos, prompted by some NALP statistics about the paucity of grads 36 and older in BigLaw. The article went on to say ... that nontrads don’t want to work hard and that they don’t like taking orders from people younger than them, so they don’t seek jobs in BigLaw. ... Right. I quit a job I was excellent at, went into debt, spent three years in law school, because I don’t want to work hard. Huh?"

My comment? Your e-mail proves the point. You were reading the National Law Journal. And then you took the time to e-mail me. That's time you could have been billing clients. That's time you could have been working hard and making partners money. But you weren't. You were slacking off, just like everyone your age does, with their "children" and their "elderly parents" and their "doctor appointments." Young associates don't read the National Law Journal. They use it to wipe themselves after they go to the bathroom in their office trash cans because they don't want to take time out from billing clients to go to the bathroom. Young associates don't think about whining to someone like me because they're too busy knocking on my door and asking me how they can make my life easier and my clients happier and my contractor richer.

It's not my fault, or the fault of any of my colleagues, that you decided to go to law school. It's not our fault you got into debt. It's not our fault you want a job you can't get. Baseball players can't get jobs after age 40 either. It's the same thing here. Your skills may or may not deteriorate (I can argue both sides of that), but your stamina certainly does. Your energy does. Your drive does. If you're just starting out at age 40, you know you're never going to get to the top, so why even try. You're complacent. Not because you're choosing to be, but because you're too old and experienced in life not to be. Young people don't have perspective. They don't understand that the kinds of things we demand from them are pointless and not worth getting all worked up about. They don't get that we're not going to fire them. They don't get that most of the pressure they feel to stay here all night is pressure they're putting on themselves and that the consequences for living a normal life are all in their head. But older associates know it's all a bit of a game. Older associates know I don't really have the power to behead an associate in the guillotine I stole from the Studio 60 soundstage when we took the summer associates on a tour. But the kids don't. They think it's going to really happen. They think we're really going to kill them if they don't finish the document review by 6AM tomorrow morning. And that's why we like them.

Maybe you're willing to work hard. But you're probably not willing to be humiliated, and honestly it's a lot less fun to humiliate a 40-year-old, with 2 kids and 3 ex-wives and a mortgage and a limp than it is to humiliate a 25-year-old without any responsibilities except to the firm. You want to blame someone for this? Blame your law school for accepting you. No one forced you into this game. No one pretended you would be employable. And don't think law is the only industry where this is an issue. Ask a 40-year-old TV writer. If you can find one. Or a 40-year-old exotic dancer. Don't see too many of those either, at least not at the summer associate strip club events. Maybe we just pick our venue carefully, but I've got to believe there's some pretty big age discrimination going on there too.

And it makes sense for largely the same reasons. No wants to see a 40-year-old doing document review, or taking off their clothes. It's just the way the world works.

今晚一直在沉思默想， 几乎没有和孩子说话， 女儿真乖，懂事了.

liyienne

很佩服楼主, 我白天上班,晚上回家还要照顾两个孩子,等她们9点睡觉了才有时间看看书,就这样偶尔还抵制不了美剧的诱惑... 要是上班不忙的话我单位里还可以看看书... 我的目标是考到730 我就去申请IMD,据说是瑞士最好的商学院
我从9月初开始准备的到现在就把OG12和OG10的SC快速的过了一遍,几乎是错一半一半的... 嗨,目标好遥远啊...

alanuonuo

nowwsy,你好， 感谢你的建议， 但是数学是我的心腹大患，心理疾病，大学毕业已经十年了，还经常做噩梦在考数学，感到惊恐，羞愧，绝望....直到被吓醒..........昨晚只做了三道数学题， 又开始天旋地转。   所以，我必须从阅读和数学开始啊。 语法，逻辑，我倒不怕，只是时间问题而已。  

谢谢你的关心！  有句话说得好，cd上到处都是亲人啊.......

-- by 会员 papaya730 (2010/9/30 13:50:57)

终于碰到跟我一样的人了。我毕业之后就经常做梦考试，什么政治啊，数学啊，说不定什么，梦里急得要死。对此我老公非常不理解，因为他从来都不害怕考试。
楼主，加油！

papaya730

加油！今早完成单词4个list, 难句5个。  深有感触， Gmat真的是一种思维习惯的训练。  就让GMAC 给我洗脑吧！  

巨多的单词不认识！  看完难句后，朗诵了一篇新概念2册的文章， 好享受啊，这才是我喜爱的英语啊！

papaya730

亲爱的sunflower, 教育好两个孩子是最有意义的事业了，人生到最后还剩什么？不就是亲请吗？  

去加拿大读书 竞争不是很激烈，如果想申请奖学金，还是分数越高越好。

象你这种情况，去读colledge玩玩也可以， 入学考试很简单，只要高中毕业的水平就可以了。  

每家情况不一样。你现在的生活状态很好啊！

dodo_even

继续来帮lz顶~
数学和单词都是一个积累的过程~我觉得OG12的数学比以前多了很多陷阱，不知道是不是自己很久不碰数学了才会有这样的感觉，不过多做题真的会有助于培养对“陷阱”的敏感性的。

papaya730

谢谢啊，dodo,  刚开准备，没有严格学习计划，在找感觉呢。  

当一个人没有目标没有追求的时候， 就会无事生非， 滋生更多的烦恼。

现在好了，生活多么简单！ 每天是是单词，难句。

昨天一整天没碰数学。不是很怕，但心理严重抵触。既然dodo这么好心地鼓励我，我今天就勉为其难，亲自做几道题吧。哈哈， 谢谢！

灿若夏花

今天看了大量心经。确定了奋斗目标后，生活突然变得简单了，心情逐渐沉静下来。复杂的人生问题先放放。 下午老公通知我计划有变，很晚才能回来。于是，晚饭后我陪女儿去徐家汇的长颈鹿美语学校上课，这是台湾的一个少儿英语教育品牌，一年144课时，学费1万1。小班教学，不超过10个人。 女儿上课去了，我看《杨鹏难句》。 家长休息室有五个家长热闹着谈股市，搅得我又胡思乱想了投资理财的事，回家后，又接了妈妈的长途电话，女儿入睡时已经10点了。呵呵，今晚还是躲着数学。 本来说做数学，还是没做，不喜欢，不喜欢。  明天吧，明天开始和数学培养感情。  
明天早上两小时单词（遵照buddy二八法则，背抽象词），然后10个难句，1篇阅读，然后啃数学，做10道数学题。实在是不想做数学题，  一般人想象不到我们这种不喜欢数学的人的痛苦。

先这么摸索着，跟着感觉走，国庆节要安排两三次亲子户外活动。节后再制订严格的学习计划。
这次是认真的，一定要考个成绩出来。

多谢sunflower100, 欢迎监督！

-- by 会员 papaya730 (2010/9/29 1:00:45)

姐姐，决定了就不要轻易放弃，特别是不要受到外界的诱惑。。。。

dodo_even

谢谢啊，dodo,  刚开准备，没有严格学习计划，在找感觉呢。  

当一个人没有目标没有追求的时候， 就会无事生非， 滋生更多的烦恼。

现在好了，生活多么简单！ 每天是是单词，难句。

昨天一整天没碰数学。不是很怕，但心理严重抵触。既然dodo这么好心地鼓励我，我今天就勉为其难，亲自做几道题吧。哈哈， 谢谢！

-- by 会员 papaya730 (2010/10/1 15:31:19)

加油加油！不积跬步何以成千里呀～每天做一点点，感觉就慢慢培养出来啦～

dodo_even

谢谢啊，dodo,  刚开准备，没有严格学习计划，在找感觉呢。  

当一个人没有目标没有追求的时候， 就会无事生非， 滋生更多的烦恼。

现在好了，生活多么简单！ 每天是是单词，难句。

昨天一整天没碰数学。不是很怕，但心理严重抵触。既然dodo这么好心地鼓励我，我今天就勉为其难，亲自做几道题吧。哈哈， 谢谢！

-- by 会员 papaya730 (2010/10/1 15:31:19)

加油加油！不积跬步何以成千里呀～每天做一点点，感觉就慢慢培养出来啦～

-- by 会员 dodo_even (2010/10/1 19:52:24)

吼吼～一不小心占了个山头～