以下是引用lakess在2008-3-22 3:20:00的发言：是个不容易的选择，部分理解楼主。 不过Columbia确实是一个对楼主更好些的选择，因为虽然同为top的Marketing programs，Columbia的声誉和实力无论在美国还是国内的认可度都更高。长远看，对于你的career好的选择还是重于其他。B-School比别的更在乎出身。 而且，在美国学校呆了5年，觉得美国教授还是挺开明和尊重个人意愿的，还不至于给你穿小鞋，除非你处理的太傲慢。而我觉得楼主也已经足够足够尊重你的NYU合作教授了．楼主说过他是美国白人，没有其他意思，统计上来说，这种美国白人教授一般都不会太mean的，就是PhD念到中间要转学，很多也是尊重学生的选择，美国文化传统就是尊重个人选择和实际，而不是像国内同时也从东方思维的感情交情出发来要求你。你来美国B-School做了更多的研究就会发现，一起做研究是一个说weak也很weak的短期bond。不像婚姻，是短期的,也没有任何排他性,也不是一个很大的commitment．他的expection因该不会是因为一起做了一个project,他帮你写了大力推荐信就必须要跟他一直做 phd. 再说了，你去了Columbia还是一样可以和他合作一些research，这点你在国内都做到了，何况是同城。marketing的research合作是很flexible的。没准你去了Columbia给他也带来了校际合作的机会，他也通过你和Columbia的教授有了一起实质性合作的研究，也是win-win啊。同样是一种知恩图报的方式。 总而言之,没必要因为一个其实并不期待很大的bond，而从你和nyu教授双方都背上了沉重的长期的不必要的道义负担。我觉得nyu教授打电话可能也是觉得不希望双方都背巨大的moral burden。没有必要的，你去了Columbia也还是有很多合作机会，对双方win-win 以下是引用wiwiana在2008-3-23 23:07:00的发言：tingting, if i were you, i would pick NYU. What i think is... the relationship between professors and students, sometimes, is just like the relationship between men and women. Your professor do not want you to choose NYU because of the burden of responsibility. Because he does not want you to blame him in future. Yet it doesnt mean that he does not want you to go NYU. He just does not want you to go NYU because of responsibility. If you really go to NYU, I am sure he will be very happy and he will take very good care of you and your research. In my opinion, both NYU and Columbia are very good in Marketing. Maybe Columbia is better. But i think the difference is very small as both of them are VERY GOOD SCHOOLS. Honestly having a good mentor/supervisor is more important than the school name and ranking, esp. the reputation and location of two schools are in fact very very close. What i think is.. .if you go to NYU, the prof will thank and appreciate you a lot. He will be very good to you and will help you A LOT in job market in future. If you go to Columbia, i think, undoubtedly, it will ruin the relationship. Maybe you can find some other good professors in Columbia, but you never know.. there is always a risk when u go to a new place. I have worked for almost 4 years before application. So I really know how the real world works and I know how important relationship is. Even in academic world, relationship is still something VERY IMPORTANT. You will see your professor in many many occassions. He will also be a journal editor looking at your submitted paper. If you are choosing between Columbia and some other schools, lets say, 2nd tier or 3rd tier, then obviously the answer will be Columbia. But given NYU and Columbia are in fact very close in many aspects, if I were you, I would consider the factor called RELATIONSHIP. And I would choose NYU. U know, it is really lucky that you have already started your research projects even before your first semester in PhD. This is something you have to treasure as it will be some very important asset to you when you graduate. 两位的回答我觉得都是well said 我这个疑似马甲来总结发挥一下^^： 第一， 这种和教授的bond在学生看来当然是很感激很重要的，其实在教授来说，他在商学院这么多年，写过的推荐信、提携后进做的project难道还少了？对他而言，可能就是很简单，觉得你有潜力，比较欣赏，就乐意帮忙咯，并不见得有多高的回报期待，换言之，他也不大可能想得这么远，非要你做他的学生。楼主不要想太多了，诚恳的处理这件事情，你要是去了哥大，没可能会ruin the relationship的，这里面没有什么利益冲突，有经验的教授都看得很开的。这种bond，真的不是那么强的。从了NYU，那位教授就会很高兴->很感激->竭尽全力做好你的导师->找工作会帮上大忙？这里面的推论跳了太多步，大不见得的。 第二，是不是一定要这么早定老板？你对这两家学校的faculty都完全了解么？会不会有更好的导师选择？对于很多读engineering的学生，要通过RA的funding来生存，没办法，不管是否了解全部情况，能有一个坑available就先占着，所以也才有这么多最后发现不match的故事。商学院funding充足，是不是可以在定导师上面慎重些、考虑再全面些？去到学校念上半年，再来考虑导师的事情，未尝不可啊。两家学校的marketing想必都不少大牛吧，不至于没得挑的^^。早毕业一年真的那么重要么？再说谁也保证不了的吧。我总觉得，读商科的PhD，学生在funding上不用受那么多限制，相应的，可以也应该更从容更全面的考虑导师、选题、未来规划的问题。 第三，既然之前的bond可以多种方式维持，既然没必要这么草率的定导师，既然都说哥大和NYU有同样的location和相似的placement，既然都说哥大似乎更好一些些，那么结论就很自然咯。哥大作为ivy的名气和光环，在这种其他环节打平的情况下，已经是很重的砝码了吧。人生的路很难说的，关键时刻哥大的优势也许就是决定性的，ivy的出身终究是不同的呀。 楼主的选择也许早有倾向，但是无论如何，最好不要碍于情面，人情这个东西，总是处在一个很动态的过程，说不准的。 | 
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