第一次发帖要感谢大家；怀孕和申请如何共存？请大家给个主意

charashi226

首先要非常感谢CD和CDer，汇总这么多有用的考试心得和资料。我的GMAT受益匪浅。希望今后我能有机会同样回报大家。

我马上就要过三十的生日了。一毕业在四大做审计，后来的工作就在Finance领域了。直到最近，才考好了GMAT 780/ AWA 4.5，托福673/5。希望进top 10的finance。但是现在最大的问题是我一直想生好了孩子再出去，可是怀孕这件事可不像考试，我可以控制时间。我不知道如果我申请又有幸被录取了，而这之间我如果又怀孕不能去了，学校会有什么政策？还是说学校会对我这种做法会感到很不满意？

请大家给点意见，谢谢！

yaoyao99

Being pregnant is probably a lesser worry than having to care for a child, no?  Why not start trying during your second year?

[此贴子已经被作者于2007-1-12 21:41:58编辑过]

charashi226

Thanks YaoYao. My parents can take care of my baby when I leave China. On the other hand, I'm afraid that pregnancy in the second year will ruin the best chances for me to find a good job after MBA. What do you think?

uibewsj

once you have a baby, you wil find it totally difficult to tear apart with it... I have a friend in CA, her baby is in China, she cries whenever she thinks of the baby...
in addition, if u wanna stay in North America latter, maybe it'll be better to give birth there, winning a nationality for the baby as a by-product? Maybe it's nothing for u, but in certain senses, it means an opportunity.
I know pushing off a big plan is really a huge decision to make, it is relevant and will influence on so many many things...So, you 'd better have a thorough dicussion with your family, esp your husband.
Good luck~

uibewsj

Maybe now it is easy for you to say that your parents can take care of the baby, and to say that a good job is more important, ... and so on.
Although I have no baby, I have drawn a conclusion from my relatives and friends that in almost all cases, baby means sacrifice. Once you have a baby, your thoughts will change greatly, and will understand that nothing is more important than it. The first three years' education is essential to the baby in its whole future life. I don't think it fair to leave it to a place without parental love, it is not fair to you, either.
Just some comments out of my personal feelings. Ignore them if you find unsuitable.

charashi226

Thanks for your advices, uibewsj. In fact, many has told me what you just said, and I think you're right. But do you think it's possible to bear a child and study MBA (and find job later) in USA at the same time? My parents surely can help if they could got visa.

uibewsj

I do have a friend in US, she gave birth to a baby last year, i.e. the 1/2 year of study. Now her is still on maternity leave. Her parents got visa smoothly several mths ago and are now caring for the baby with her. Her mother-in-law has also got the visa and wil take on the shift next month...

You see, so many people in US is really a big economic burden... Luckily her husband has a nice job.

charashi226

How long will that maternity leave be? Will she be disadvantaged when looking for job because of a period of absense? For example, she might miss the opportunity of internship because of pregnancy. I'm worried about my job opportunities after MBA.

uibewsj

There are millions of reasons for u to be absent from study for some time, and personally, I think giving birth is the most harmless one. It is natural and should be full of blessing. Also the Americans think much of family, you can tell this from the fact that they gave visas so generously to my friend's relatives.
Some people think it good that you have already had a baby, 'cause that means u may concentrate on your job and will not take maternity leave for a time.
Giving birth to a baby takes time. If anyone rejects you just because they do not agree with this, u may just reject them and avoid future troubles.

马甲一号

怀孕没什么,养小孩才是费力的事儿.而且把小孩完全交给父母,我觉得不是很好.

MBA第1年比较辛苦,但是第2年应该相对轻松一些.还可以考虑MBA工作后生孩子.

BTW:我一个同学,我们1年级刚开学生了个孩子,在家待了几天就来上学了.她有俩孩子,全部送DAY CARE,也没有人帮着带.是个老美.