在事业和感情之间如何取舍－－征求建议

kevingu

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sinocheetah

带她以前出去读书吧。

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yaoyao99

Rotation programs can sometimes be extended, especially if she does a good job there.  Maybe she'd be interested in applying for MBA/master's herself after that experience.  You just never know.  Plus, her career is taking off, don't let yours fall behind!!

hgconnie

建议随缘。

如果你们足够爱对方，自然会在接下来的日子里共同面对新的挑战，心中装着对方；

如果你们一方不够爱对方，很可能分手，迟早的事情，到时候自然会碰到新的soul mate。

不过，一切随缘，顺其自然。两个人分手或者在一起都是有原因的。

如果目前争吵很多，“一直在纠缠着件事情，吵得很厉害，” 又没结果的话何必做这个伤感情的无谓争吵呢？搞不好，不是因为你读书或者她出国你们才分手，可能在国内就分手了呢？

kevinao

如果你们同时在国外， 一个工作一个读书（即使在不同国家），那是最好的了。其实不管是你还是她的工作大概都没有好到不必出国读书。确切的讲，99.9％的中国人的工作背景到top10都不算outstanding， 甚至below average （就是bank management trainee可能也是below average），所以没有什么是不能抛弃的（感情除外）。如果她不想读，建议你出去读1年的， 然后回国。我了解的hsbc management trainee3年后很多都去harverd, stanford，duke,insead,lbs读书了，然后回亚洲进投行，vc/pe or mckinsey。

gre0426

I've seen people who gave up the other half to pursue their career. They did get what the want, sort of, but they are not really happy in their personal life. It doesn't seem to be perfect result.

The so-called 缘 is very mysterious and often seems powerful, but looking from a business perspective, success of relationship requires conscious attention and effort. Put it another way, like any other human endeavor, relationship depends not only on luck and supernatural forces but also on how we proactively handle it.

kevingu

问题是她不想出国，而我想出去，这样就会有好几年的时间是分开的，

这样以后可能会很痛苦啊

gre0426

Is there any way to persuade her to apply for MBA program with you? Perhaps she is not fully aware of the chances laying ahead if she gets an MBA. If she reads more on CD, maybe she will change her mind?

djcong

以下是引用gre0426在2006-8-15 14:30:00的发言：

I've seen people who gave up the other half to pursue their career. They did get what the want, sort of, but they are not really happy in their personal life. It doesn't seem to be perfect result.

The so-called 缘 is very mysterious and often seems powerful, but looking from a business perspective, success of relationship requires conscious attention and effort. Put it another way, like any other human endeavor, relationship depends not only on luck and supernatural forces but also on how we proactively handle it.

so wise......

djcong

以下是引用kevingu在2006-8-15 14:34:00的发言：

问题是她不想出国，而我想出去，这样就会有好几年的时间是分开的，

这样以后可能会很痛苦啊

也许我理想主义。我总觉得真正好的东西没有那么容易得到。包括感情。所以，年轻的时候不在一个地方也许可以令彼此更珍惜也不一定，如果真心相爱的话。路还长着呢，年纪轻的时候当然要追求自己的梦想。要不然即使你们为彼此放弃了机会，将来感情淡下来一定会把这个提出来，觉得我为你牺牲了如何如何。。。