希望大家给点意见-感谢

zixiahu

如果没有发挥好还考过了700，说明你的潜力很大，干脆再好好考一次申请top 10 H/S/W

还有，孩子是上天赐给你的礼物，没有什么比他/她更重要了，所以这一年还是先以他/她为重吧

badmedirtyyou

I had the same situation. I just found out that I am pregnant. I got admissions already. I am still thinking what should I do. Is there anyway that I started on the second quarter.

matrix-choice

我想对楼主说的是,两件事都是大事,也都是需要你全心去体会其中乐趣和烦恼的事情,也很可能是一辈子只一次的经历,最好排开一点,不要挤在一起.另外,对自己好一点,不要逼自己逼得太紧,对身/心都不好.但也不要太自私,同时也要考虑家人,爱人的压力和困难.

清影

谢谢楼上几位，badmedirtyyou MM，我们两个是同喜同喜呀，我已经跟第一所学校写了一个电邮，首先说明了我的预产期，还有由于一直在忙着申请，没太介意，最近才发现，而且这个孩子对我很重要，第二表达了贵校是my dream school， 很希望能够今年就能念上，但是考虑到我的实际情况，加上必要的修养，可能10月中才能上学，还有没有可能赶得上今年的课程，如果只能延期一年的话，还有没有可能保留给我的scholarship等等

我跟我老公的感情很好，他一再表示可以分担我的压力，但是说实话我也担心两头兼顾的话，很有可能两头都照顾不周，如果学校那边能够给我保留奖学金等，我比较倾向于延期一年，现在我还没有得到校方的答复，我不知道你的预产期是什麽时侯，你说从2nd quarter开始应该是没有可能的，除非你申请的学校有冬季班。不过我的一个朋友说，她知道有一个人由于没有拿到签证，学校给她的offer延了两年，而且是保留奖学金，所以你可以尽早跟学校取得联系，因为我觉得这件事你是躲不过的，迟早要面对的事，早一点说，是对校方的尊重，但是个人认为，没有拿到offer的就别说了，人家也不一定录，录了再坦白从宽吧。我的baby真得很乖，我一点反应都没有，就好像他知道他已经给我添了许多麻烦一样。那天跟老公说，别人申请拿到offer就算结束了，我还要继续写长长的电子邮件给学校，然后如坐针毡的等结果

badmedirtyyou

Qingyin, I got three offers and I am definitely going to one of them. I will tell the school as soon as I decided which school I am going to attend. I possibly going to attend the program that I can still working full time. I know it sounds crazy. My parents will be here in US help me. My husband is extemely supportive but he got a phd in computer science and will be looking for a faculty job. So I do not have visa issue and the school is supposed to be very helpful with my schedule. But like you said, I am worried how can I cope with all the fun that is going on with my life.

badmedirtyyou

Thanks Qingyin for the suggestion. My due date is end of september. I am in US already and I am going to one of the three schools that give me the offer. So I do not have a visa issue. As soon as I decide which school I am going to I will talk to the admission director about the matter. Also I might going to a program that can allow me to continue my full time job so the program should be flexible enough for me to begin in second quarter. What  I am worried about is how can I cope with so much fun in my life. Also, I dearest hub is going to graduate from UCLA computer science dept this year and is looking for a faculty job. I really hope he can be with me.

wwwzzz

Don't worry, generally the school will be very considerate of your condition. And I think your decision is right--waiting for a year will be worth it because you can take care of the baby now and focus on studies and recruiting next year. It's hard to do both well, and the timing of the baby is perfect...

wcai

孩子终究是要生的，而且是越早越好！如果上了一年学，在怀孕生子，延期毕业，会不会更好？

badmedirtyyou

Sounds a good plan the only thing is ( and boy let me tell you) that is really not anything you can control.

清影

   agree with badmedirtyyou