Parents should allow their children to make mistakes and allow them to learn from their own mistakes.
All parents love their children more than anyone in the world, but just because this special love they hold for their children, sometimes led to high expectations on their children or strict gestures they do to their children. Just because the rising expectations on their children, they sometimes forbidden children to make potential mistakes. This kind of phenomenon has led the discussion about education into a white-hot era. A lot of parents hold to the point that mistakes should be wiped out and children shouldn’t make such mistakes. The others convinced that children making mistakes is very common and very normal, parents shouldn’t make such a fuss about it. I for one, agrees with the latter point of view. I will illustrate my consideration above this question with the following points.
First of all, the high expectations may cause tremendous pressure on children. They could be more afraid to show themselves before parents for they are afraid to do it wrong. They could also be afraid to explore new things because trying the first time may do the thing not rightly. This will led them to miss finding their potential and lose the chance of developing it. And it would cause the child not wanting to show up at anything, which would led to a shy character. Take one of my classmate for example. He was always scolded by his parents for doing something not excellently, so afterwards, whenever there are events in the class, he is afraid to be a part of it. There’s this one time that someone at the television report want to choose someone that is good at math, he is the perfect one, but he refused it. He missed a lot of chances which may led to his future successes.
Secondly, a child’s heart and mentality can be very fragile. The strict movements can hurt a child’s heart and may take a long time to recover from it. Because they take every thing very seriously and may mess up in self blame. There’s this time my sister made some mistakes in her reading exercises when she is quiet little, her mother scolded her quiet madly, she took a long time to recover. As a sequel of that scolding, she is still afraid to speak in public which led to her frequent failure in her job interviews.
The third point that let me convince this view is this one time I found out my brother hiding his grades from his parents. It’s because he was also blamed of his grades, he became not wanting the parents to know about his situations. When children forbidden to make any mistakes, they might hide their flaws from parents and learn to deceive them. This will cause a even more serious problem than it is before. So if it is for me, I would try to understand them and let them to fix up themselves.
Due to all these consideration and true examples happening around me, I came to the conclusion that children should be allowed to make mistakes. Of course there are certain problems they can’t solve by themselves, which would need parents to help them, and there are some specific problems they can never made. But most of the time, it is better for parents to let them handle questions by themselves. |