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It is more important to keep your old friend than it is tomake new friends. The importance of friends have been emphasized countlesstimes by people. Undoubtedly we have reached the consensus that we all needfriends. However, the issue is, we should focus on keeping old buddies or makingnew one? From my point of view, Friendship management is analogical to winebrew, the older, the dearer. Friendship is valued for "quality", otherthan"quantity". As society develops, human beings tend to be livemore dependent than ever before, which was followed by significant loneliness.Although we may meet lots of new people everyday, in business, in gym, or inrestaurant. We may say hello, shake hands, talk and kill time, hardly do wereally show the real face of us---because they don't really know us, that'sjust social. When we really in trouble, we're down, we face setbacks on our work and feeldisappointed, it's those old friends who can really understand us, who can relyon. When we experience embarrassed things, we have a nice dream last night, orwe meet someone that we're kind of into, it's those friends we'd love to sharewith them. Good things or bad things, it's always so sweet that someone canshare with you, or bear with you. Friendship is valued for "maintain", other than "replace".It may has been common experience for most of people that you may get a bunchof business cards after a party, fews days past when you take a look at thosecards, you can hardly recognize who is it. People are always chasing what theydon't have yet, while easy to ignore those they have had, and that's not theway of friendship. After I went abroad towards US, I got so busy catching myschool schedule that somehow contact minor times with my old guys who have beenmy best friends in college. Once we met on the facebook and we talk, I felt thatwe have kind of far away, not physical distance, but heart. I felt so sad aboutthat and after that, I would talk to my old guys routinely and tell each otherwhat's going on recently. So keep eye on connecting with your old friends, it'smore important than make new one. "Time will tell", that's my motto and something Ialways believe in. In most of the cases, you can't tell if a guy would be yourfriend especially when you just met him/her. According to a psylosophy research,people tend to conceal their real personalities when they meet someone fresh.However as the time goes by, they tend to detach their "makeup" andbehave towards their real characteristics. So that's the point I want toclarify, as I mentioned above, we canshare our happiness and sorrow to our old friends because we have so close thatwe have nothing to conceal. That's a feeling that that guy, your old friend, isthe one that you can trust, because after such a long time, you know him well.On the contrary, it's always take much time to know someone fresh. The worstthing is, the result may be unpleasant, the one you want to make friend with maybe not the one that fit. To sum it up, it's feasible to make new friends. But,keeping old friends should always the first priority, and reason is simple--they'remore important to you. |
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