Dilemma

飞雪

同意Jeff的看法，如果现在做出了牺牲，而以后两人生活中碰到什么矛盾，你很有可能会因为放弃了offer而后悔不已，从而激化矛盾。


如果两个人的感情真的是很好，两年，就是再多些时间也不能算什么。如果你们在这两年里彼此都改变了心态，只能说你们还不是彼此的Right one.


我觉得在这种事情上要说做出选择就不会后悔，我相信没有很多人可以做到。所以还是把握现在，不要让自己因为没有去做而后悔。

Shuzhen

以下是引用飞雪在2004-3-17 12:41:00的发言：
同意Jeff的看法，如果现在做出了牺牲，而以后两人生活中碰到什么矛盾，你很有可能会因为放弃了offer而后悔不已，从而激化矛盾。



如果两个人的感情真的是很好，两年，就是再多些时间也不能算什么。如果你们在这两年里彼此都改变了心态，只能说你们还不是彼此的Right one.


我觉得在这种事情上要说做出选择就不会后悔，我相信没有很多人可以做到。所以还是把握现在，不要让自己因为没有去做而后悔。

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sunnyspring

Agree with Jeff and FeiXue....


We are not that young, and we have endeavored so much to get an offer, so we cannot be impulsive. When we're sure of one thing and unsure of the other thing, take    in hand what we can control ourselves and see what will    happen with the other thing.

Jeremy

以下是引用sunnyspring在2004-3-17 13:03:00的发言：




We are not that young, and we have endeavored so much to get an offer, so we cannot be impulsive. When we're sure of one thing and unsure of the other thing, take    in hand what we can control ourselves and see what will    happen with the other thing.

多冷静的成本比较和未来盈利能力分析啊，还可能牵涉到probability tree的分析。


    

didi_leee

哈哈，nanyu来一张criteria form比较一下怎么样？


总之不要因为无形的东西而烦恼，要因为有形的东西而快乐。（原话是反过来的。咱们这里的有形指offer，无形指爱情）。一定要把握住自己能够把握的东西！


还有一句最近听回来的话，大家别打我，我真觉得有道理：对方的忠诚不在于你为他付出多少，而在于他为你付出多少！

wwwzzz

Well...what's his attitude? Maybe you can "lobby" him into going abroad and find a new horizon together with you...if you don't want to give up your dream.


Two years' a long time...you can never tell what it can do to you, especially, if your relationship has just begun (I assume this    from your words "found my Mr. Right").

josiesun

有没有折衷的方法, 列如推迟入学一年, 利用这一年交往和积累感情, 可以让他在这一年中也申请.    


对于一个人来说也许爱情不是生活必需品, 但MBA就是吗? 美国就是吗? 所以两者应该是同等重要的, 不要轻言放弃, 尽量找找同时进行的办法.

at3

感情是要靠双方共同经营的, 我一向人为距离不是问题


我和我老婆从相识到结婚都是在两个城市, 风风雨雨三年了, 但我们从来都没有觉得距离会阻碍我们什么, 重要的是相互间的信任

valarie

I think you really need to think BEYOND two years. What will you do after two years? Is it just two-year apart? If he anyway won't go abroad, will you be willing to come back to China after two years if you can get decent job in the US? At that time, if you still love each other, what will you choose, your real Mr. right or the wonderful job in the US? Many times, when you start to choose being apart, it will go on endlessly unless both of you make efforts and are willing to compromise something.

nanyusz

Thank you for so many of great ideas. We've discussed this concern very seriously. He will support my decision. Meanwhile, he will try to go to US for maybe half or one year as a visiting scholar. However, two year is still a big deal... only time can tell it...