求助：拿到admission后发现怀孕了，怎么办？

cammln

正在怀孕备战期，感觉怀孕前3个月和后3个月比较难，如果体质一般的话还是以生孩子为重，就先deter一年吧。

蓝莲花

以下是引用yaoyao99在2007-4-13 13:49:00的发言：

More trivial problems but not necessary ones with easy solutions:

You'll have to go pee a lot and experience other bodily reactions when you're pregnant; you'll have to go to various exams in a foreign country and make important decisions throughout; your parent/husband will be dependent on you even though you're depending on them to help out; you may or may not have problem locating things you are familiar with and that can be very frustrating especially when you are pressed for time and money;

Problems that may require careful consideration on your end:

How do you want your classmates to remember you?  Are you willing to give up a significant amount of your social life in school?  Can you go back to China immediately after graduation and carry the financial burden (assuming you are taking out loans)?  What would the U.S. citizenship really mean for your child if you'll raise him/her in China? 

Good news:

There'll be a lot of F2s with kids who can help you out, with babysitting and tips to get you through the difficult time.  The school should be very supportive as well, more so than a regular employer.

Thanks a million for all the consideration. I'll think over if I can handle all these.

By the way, U.S. citizenship isn't important for my child at all, I want to go with it just because I don't wanna waste one whole year. And according to the new laws,  it cannot get the citizenship either, I'm not sure.

Thank you for your "good news"

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蓝莲花

以下是引用cammln在2007-4-13 17:04:00的发言：

正在怀孕备战期，感觉怀孕前3个月和后3个月比较难，如果体质一般的话还是以生孩子为重，就先deter一年吧。

现在已经一个半月了，还一点感觉没有，走的时候应该3个月已经过去了。我会根据自己的具体情况作出决定。谢谢mm！

备战顺利哦！不要跟我这样没“计划”就生育了，哈

surfer

以下是引用蓝莲花在2007-4-13 17:29:00的发言：

Thanks a million for all the consideration. I'll think over if I can handle all these.

By the way, U.S. citizenship isn't important for my child at all, I want to go with it just because I don't wanna waste one whole year. And according to the new laws,  it cannot get the citizenship either, I'm not sure.

Thank you for your "good news"

LZ inclined to have the baby without using the option of deferral and try to find someone on the forum to validate this judgment. I'm not one of them and don't think this will work. The reason is obvious as mentioned by many others.

I strongly suggest those who support LZ to give more specific example or personal experience. Under what exact circumstances somebody give birth to a baby in a foreign country while having her MBA education. Did she have the baby all by herself? Who help the mother out? Was the program very vigorous? What support she got from school? How this will affect her MBA experience both inside and outside the classroom? The more specific, the better. Otherwise, we may mislead LZ. Having a health baby safely is the most important thing. Come on, we are talking about the lives of two people.

只此一帖

家庭 vs MBA, 这有什么好比较的？实在犯难的话干脆把老公也休了算了

Huangzizeng

以下是引用只此一帖在2007-4-13 21:44:00的发言：
家庭 vs MBA, 这有什么好比较的？实在犯难的话干脆把老公也休了算了

这个也太狠了吧.

而且还要想想孩子吧?

孩子是无辜的啊.

只此一帖

以下是引用Huangzizeng在2007-4-14 0:24:00的发言：

这个也太狠了吧.

而且还要想想孩子吧?

孩子是无辜的啊.

人家连要不要孩子都要想半天，老公算个啥子？

Huangzizeng

以下是引用只此一帖在2007-4-14 0:27:00的发言：

人家连要不要孩子都要想半天，老公算个啥子？

有道理. 千万别碰上这样的女人...

可怜的男人们啊!

yaoyao99

以下是引用蓝莲花在2007-4-13 17:29:00的发言：

Thanks a million for all the consideration. I'll think over if I can handle all these.

By the way, U.S. citizenship isn't important for my child at all, I want to go with it just because I don't wanna waste one whole year. And according to the new laws,  it cannot get the citizenship either, I'm not sure.

That's by no means an exhaustive list and I'm not sure if anyone can provide it.  You'll be in for a lot of surprises and the list could go on and on.  For example, would you trust your family member to take the baby to the hospital (for check-ups or emergency situations) if they can't fully understand what the doctor is saying? 

The new laws are about medicare, not citizenship.  Any child born in the U.S. is a U.S. citizen.

Good luck with making this difficult decision!

gmathacker

过来人告诉你,这个问题很严重.视以下的情况而定:

多大年龄? 如果超过28岁,最好留着; 另外,你是不是容易怀孕的女人,毫无疑问,留着.

总之,留着是上策,虽然读书很苦,但读过MBA后的工作,我就不想说了吧,应该比这个更苦(华尔街的工作是12小时以上,在投资银行工作),就是说,你要想读完\工作后再生,难度更大,如果珍惜婚姻,就留着吧.

现在能怀孕,我真的很羡慕你,同时,也祝福你.家庭事业双丰收