[原创] 作文求拍, Is it better to let a friend make a mistake than saying or doing some

Is it better to let a friend make a mistake than saying or doing something that would end the friendship? (421. 超时.)

When one of you friends get trapped in a trouble, and in your opinion, the solutions he/she decides on will do him/her harm.  What will you do then?  To let him/her go ahead as he/she decides, or to say or do something to prevent him/her from the mistakes (in which way you also take the risk of ending your friendship) ?  “To be, or not to be, it is a question.”  As far as I am concerned, I would prefer to let him/her have a try.

For one thing, since one could never predict the exact future, it is irresponsible to assume what the other does will be a “mistake”.  Even you think you have exactly the same experience, and the result is a nightmare, the story of your friend may still have another ending.  To assume one would definitely fail is quite presumptuous.  So, before one decide to say or do something to prevent his/her friend from “mistakes”, I think he/she should stop for a while, and check his/her way of thinking first:  what is the probability that the friend’s deeds will be followed by a bad consequences?  Has he/she taken every factor into consideration?

For another, if making suggestions would “end the friendship”, it follows that the possibility your friend will listen and accept your suggestion is very low.  A good example in this case is woman in love: one of your female friends is having affair with a guy who, in your eyes, will not give her any future.  Say or do something pushy?  It is always useless.  A woman in love will not listen.  Then what’s the meaning to do something that you know from the start is useless?

Last but not the least, in most cases, it is always benefical to make mistakes.  The development of human being is a process of trial-and-error.  Only through making mistakes could one know where his or her deficiency lies.  After errors there could be more targeted trials, and more errors, and more trials.  It is only through this way that people become more mature both in mental and in skill.  I cannot imagine a child can learn to walk until thousands of fall downs.  Then why prevent your friend from errors?

Someone may argue, what should you do then, when you think your friend is making a wrong decision?  Just let him/her go?  No.  As a friend, I think one could make suggestions, kind and rational, reasons listed and presented.  But remember: always keep the right of choice up to your friend.

思路很清晰，语言也很漂亮。：）

有一点建议是尽量少用反问句或者设问句，虽然这样的文章比较容易有说服力，但是在T作文里似乎更喜欢看到清晰直白的陈述句。如果T的老师太呆看不懂你的疑问句就惨了……

总的来说还是很不错的，继续加油！：）

我们来互拍！

其实我一开始没有看到是你来的。HOHO

development of human being is a process of trial-and-error. 我觉得可以polish一下：

The development of human being is a process that is full of trial and error. 原句有点奇怪。

point 1的论述，不是很明白。

point 3太绝对了。

结构很好，调理很清晰，语言变化也很多样性。没精读，总体赞一下，友情顶一下！

嘿嘿

 it follows that the possibility your friend will listen and accept your suggestion is very low.

有这种用法吗？

不是很通哦！

谢谢啊.   确实, 考试时还是安全一点好.

以下是引用fafacaicai在2007-10-25 16:53:00的发言：

我们来互拍！

其实我一开始没有看到是你来的。HOHO

development of human being is a process of trial-and-error. 我觉得可以polish一下：

The development of human being is a process that is full of trial and error. 原句有点奇怪。

point 1的论述，不是很明白。

point 3太绝对了。

结构很好，调理很清晰，语言变化也很多样性。没精读，总体赞一下，友情顶一下！

嘿嘿

嗯, 你改的比我的好.  

我也觉得这篇论述得有点SOPHISCATED了(超时就超在想观点上了, 郁闷).  写作时用的是忘了在哪儿看到的一个MM的方法: 列出提纲后, 三段同时写. 我觉得这办法确实蛮好用的. 即使超时, 也能保证文章结构完整.

还有你上面说的那句,  改了:

For another, if making suggestions would “end the friendship”, then the possibility that your friend will listen and accept your suggestion is quite low.   还是这么写安全些.....