[求助]如何写拒信？？

由于申请时觉得自己会去，面试时也表现很积极，可是现在拿到别的学校的offer就想拒了这个学校，不知道该怎样写拒信比较好。谢谢各位指导！

Dear Prof. White:

Thank you very much for your kind reply. It's my pleasure to hear about this exciting news. I really believe the Ph.D. study in the Department of Mechanical and Nuclear Engineering will be a matter of extreme importance to my future academic career and I am also confident that I will become a competent Ph.D. student in your esteemed university. After carefully reviewing the web page about you and your research activities for a long time, I found your research activities really interest me a lot. I am more than happy to accept this offer. In fact, I declined an offer from another university when I get this email message from you. However, before I formally accept this offer of financial aid, I wish you could extend the deadline for me for 2 weeks. I feel quite sorry and nervous to pose you such a　problem, but I sincerely wish you could understand my feeling, because a professor of University of Michigan told me that he would give me a final decision at that time, although he can't let me know how much my chance would be at this time. Again, I should state that I do have strong interest in your graduate program and I treat it a precious chance to join your research group. I told you about all my situations because I don't want to bring any inconvenience to you later, if any. Sorry for this. Thank you very much again. I am looking forward to your kind reply.

Sincerely,
XXX

含蓄而又不令对方丢面子．

在来个表达直接的

Dear Dr. :  

I have received letters of TA and chacellor fellowship offer from the   chair, and the I-20 form from graduate colledg.  I got lots of help   from you during the whole process, Thank you very much.  

However, I'm really sorry to tell you that I decided not to attend your school. I have been hesitating among the 9 schools I received for a long time, and it's really hard to reach such a decision. My teachers and my family were involved in the decision.  I'm sorry I can't inform you earlier. I hope you can find another better student.  

I enjoy our contacts and like your research very much. Also the financial support from your school is fully adequate. You're clearly an outstanding advisor with bright future. It's really a pity I can't join you this fall. May sometime in the future, we can meet in a meeting in U.S.A.  

My best wishes to you.  

Sincerely yours  

多谢各位大虾的指导！昨天等不及，发了封拒信，一对比，感觉自己措辞很糟糕。。。呵呵

偶然在水母上看到这个，值得借鉴。

发信人: bengbeng (阳光☆微笑), 信区: AdvancedEdu      
标  题: Re: 怎样写才会更委婉？
发信站: BBS 水木清华站 (Fri Mar 24 20:03:03 2000)

告诉他们你对他们的program非常感兴趣，但一些别的因素（你选的学校
有，他们学校无）使你无法割舍，你也很痛苦，矛盾，但终于还是放弃了
他们的program。你感到遗憾，并非常感谢他们的kindness和sincere help，
你希望能有机会将来以某种方式与他们合作。

其实只要你真诚，你选择的学校远优于他们的，他们通常会非常理解的。
他们不会输不起的。另外，如果你迟早要锯他们，还是早下手好，这样
他们还可以抢到别的好学生，对他们和我们的同学都好。