过去了。。。

wall2006

N年前，大学刚毕业，还在谈恋爱，我一年内为了工作换了两个北美城市，她不情愿的跟了我两次。
N年过去了，父母接过来了，小孩也生了两。
最近她开始创业，在这个不大不小的城市里参加了一个组织，得到不少免费的资源和帮助，还认识商界及政府的一些不大不小的人物，到目前为止进展顺利；暂时还是一人公司，Business Plan 还在写，不过，这不重要。
要第三次放弃她的工作，她觉得很不公平；就算我答应毕业后搬回来，让她继续，也不干（在LinkedIn刚查了，本市Alumni只有两位）。

我今年三十几了，现在还是个编程人员，说是中产，其实在北美搞IT的，大家都知道是怎么一回事。两年前申请过一趟，今年只申了一家；唉，就当是做了一场梦。对在申请过程中给我无私帮助的朋友们（有的是一面之缘，有的还没见过面），愧对他们啊；还有我的父母。。。

我上一次发的贴子是告别篇，看来这次是永别了。

Just wish CDers all the best！！

grandmoon

加油

jbqibpsh

For some people, MBA is a wife-changing experience, in addition to a life-changing experience.

In my opinion, being a entrepreneur's partner is not a bad idea. What's the point to pursue a MBA? be a professional manager? That's not as promisiong as being a entrepreneur in the long run.

MarilynR

I think you should cherish you have such a good wife always there constantly supporting you. This time, may you should do some scrafice for her? especially she got this good opportunites currently.

grandmoon

business啥时候都可以啊，到新的地方就会有新的机遇呀

onghat

LZ加油~

我很感動，畢竟人生只有一次，就這麽一次。

抓住現在所有能抓住的，不到萬不得已不要放棄，如果決定放棄，就不要猶豫。

GO AHEAD.

cyyp

赫赫，我就觉得，凡事应该以家庭为重。要两人同时做出对家庭最好的选择。她的事业，你的事业，孰轻孰重？如果你们有个统一目标，那么这根本不是一个问题。

ctkstarcraft

Think about what matters to you most and try to balance.
"When One Door Closes Another Door Opens.When One Door Opens Another Door Closes."

逸水

I think lz should try to work out a 'win-win' solution for you couple...Anyway, you've decided to spend the rest of your life with her. She somehow should be more important comparing with your professional experience. However, your motivation for an MBA should also include giving her a good, stable, enjoying life experience, which is something that you already decided to commit when you told her your vow at wedding.

Now, she might be overwhelmed by continuously  sacrificing during the past years. Women can exaggerate their feelings and yell a lot when they couldn't find a way out. The thing you need to do first is to calm her down. And analyze:
1, is there any other opportunities for her in the city you gonna have your MBA? What kind of opportunities? Are these opportunities will give her the equal sense of achievements compared with her current passion for entrepreneurship?
2, If not, try to analyze, whether it is a good time for her to start up the company at this point of life? Kinda SWOT analysis. If not, will an MBA help her? Let her apply as well!
3, If she insist her idea and refuse to go with you. Anything you guys can work out when you are separated in the upcoming 2 years? There gotta be loads of method~

Anyway, good luck! I think your wife is as important as your MBA. As a man, you gotta have ways to balance this!

Mimi_Beijing

楼主，你申请时没有和太太商量吗？在你们已经一起生活了那么久、生了两个宝宝的情况下？你申请时一定有考虑过学费怎么付啊，接下来两年你没有收入怎么办啊，毕业了以后你想干什么呀，找什么工作、过什么生活。当时就应该和太太一起想好呀。

如果没有，这几天好好商量一下，应该也还是来得及的。

如果你有很充分的理由想去读MBA，例如确实很想多IT转行，那让你放弃，你也许很痛苦吧。

和太太好好沟通一下。