以下是引用vince在2004-3-18 14:56:00的发言: if you can't accompany your gf or wife in the states, in case you are lucky to get married, I see little chance the feeling can sustain. Believe it or not, even if you stay with her on F-2 status, there still will be tons of issues you two need to go through.
The reason I go so bluntly is that I feel you are sensitive. I believe you understand well what does your gf think. Life here in the states is totally different and people change very fast, either under pressure of self-development/adjustment or just because it's so attractive to begin a whole new life.
For most Chinese applicants, the main intention of attending a famous MBA program spending both gold and golden time is to stay and build a new career. It's explicable for MBAs of both gender to dream about the splendid future and direct mind and action toward that shinning goal. I am not saying love is so weak in the relationship of couples. It is that when people have a larger circle and a further perspective, the majority are inclined to cherish the unknown future, rather than stick to the forseen.
Think it over, is the love between you two so dispensable to her? If not, get well prepared.

一个普通美国人与一个普通中国人的生活水准是有落差的。
一段普通的感情在大多数情况下经受不住这种落差的颠簸。
一个痴情的老实的男孩或男人在中国等待远在美国的爱人,或者远赴美国陪伴在她的身边,
一个情景的变化将会扑面而来,
一千吨的压力将如同滔滔江水,滚滚而来,
一个人的力量不足以从洪水中逃生,
一个曾经同样痴情的女孩在洪水中难免环顾四方,
一念间———男孩或男人的生死只在女孩一念之间!!!
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