我活的好累...

helenyu529

LZ, 我非常理解你现在的心情！你想过没有呢，人生其实是一个长期积累的过程，只要你真正地抱有一个梦想，坚持不懈的努力，非常focus在那些能够让你成功的小事情上面，你就一定会成功的！一次申请不成功，就真的能够打败你吗？一次所谓的失败，就真的能定义你的一生吗？人生，并不因为一次的转机或者一次的成功而从此改写——真正会影响你的一生的，不是别人，就是你自己！

好好focus在真正重要的事情上吧。希望看到你的心情一天天晴朗起来！Tomorrow is another day!

wall2006

Agree to 12th floor. In my opinion, LZ needs to learn how to cherish what you have at any moment during life. When something is gone, it could be gone forever...... BTW, I have lived in Canada for 12 years, and I know exactly what LZ is talking about.

If LZ hasn't read yet, I strongly recommend the following post. There is a link to English video version on 59th floor.
<你必须找到你所钟爱的东西----史蒂夫乔布斯6月斯坦佛大学演讲>
http://forum.chasedream.com/dispbbs.asp?BoardID=39&ID=126476&replyID=&skin=1

mrsyue

I understand what you guys are saying, but I have had so many defeats before. Pretty much all through the 3 years I have been here. In the beginning I couldn't even get a job as a cashier or waitress. I applied, failed, applied failed, applied failed. Up to the point I suspected that God is against me. I graduated with double majors amoung the very top of my university or God's sake, but nobody apppreciated that here. I feel that someone has knocked me off the running track right before I saw success. I was devastated when I came here, all that was supporting me was the hope that I would be back to my normal life before, else I would have been defeated a long time ago. But yes, I understand I should keep on going, and that's what I am going to do. But the thing is that I would be so devastated to go to a school that's not of the first rank, because now that I have experienced all this, it's almost not worth it to go somewhere I don't really want to just to get out of Canada. But of course, the top schools are competitive, I fear another failure...

wall2006

Life is way more beyond job and career. Here is one of my favorite passages, about 'life and beer'

A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, rocks about 2" in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. 

He then asked once more if the jar was full. This time the students were sure and they responded with a unanimous "Yes!"

The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and proceeded to pour their entire contents into the jar – effectively filling the empty spaces between the sand. The students laughed.  

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things - your family, your partner, your health, your children; things that, if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would till be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car."

The sand represented everything else. The small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued "there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you."

"Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal."

 "Take care of the rocks first -the things that really matter.  Set your priorities. The rest is just sand." 

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of beers."

 -anonymous

[此贴子已经被作者于2007-11-25 1:56:34编辑过]

zhoukitty

以下是引用mrsyue在2007-11-25 1:26:00的发言：
I understand what you guys are saying, but I have had so many defeats before. Pretty much all through the 3 years I have been here. In the beginning I couldn't even get a job as a cashier or waitress. I applied, failed, applied failed, applied failed. Up to the point I suspected that God is against me. I graduated with double majors amoung the very top of my university or God's sake, but nobody apppreciated that here. I feel that someone has knocked me off the running track right before I saw success. I was devastated when I came here, all that was supporting me was the hope that I would be back to my normal life before, else I would have been defeated a long time ago. But yes, I understand I should keep on going, and that's what I am going to do. But the thing is that I would be so devastated to go to a school that's not of the first rank, because now that I have experienced all this, it's almost not worth it to go somewhere I don't really want to just to get out of Canada. But of course, the top schools are competitive, I fear another failure...

LZ 我也在加拿大打工,你的境遇我很理解. 以前申请工作的失败, 并不意味着你能力的失败. 这里的店主很实际的, 他们是觉得你有美国大学的双学位, 没有理由会真的要做CASHIER. 是觉得你适合的是更好的职位. 以前的种种不顺利, 难免不是今后成功的小小铺垫. 眼看未来的时候, 不妨忘记过去的不愉快... 把握自己拥有的一切.

mrsyue

ai, at least I am glad to know that there is people who actually understands what I'm talking about. Thank everyone for the encouragement, I'll keep on going!

变心1122

turn off your mind. Getting a rec letter from your boss can be a great case of your leadership experience - how to persuade other people, especially senior-level people like your boss, by conquering big difficulty. All schools like candidates with strong leadership ability.

Therefore, once you made decision, try your best and never give up!