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24. The best way to teach is to praise positive actions and ignore negative ones.
Write a response in which you discuss the extent to which you agree or disagree with the statement and explain your reasoning for the position you take. In developing and supporting your position, you should consider ways in which the statement might or might not hold true and explain how these considerations shape your position.
Some educators today advocate the “praise” method, suggesting parents to praise whatever their children do at home and ignore the wrongs. Such method, while indeed will reduced the chance of parental negligence and abuse to some extent, may lead to the less desirable consequences of bumptious, overtly confident next generation who tend to be selfish and apathetic. It is important for parents to keep in mind that moderate punishment will help the children identify their faults and prevent them from engaging in the same activity again. Praising is necessary whenever the child does something good or when the child stops doing something wrong. With a combination of praise and punishment, will the children learn from their actions and build upon their experiences to become truly independent, responsible citizens of tomorrow.
Severe abuse and negligence is detrimental to the mental and physical development of a child. Psychologists have long identified developmental stages where positive feedbacks from a parent or guidance will significantly boost confidence in a child and reduce the chance of mental instability in later stages. In China, where teachers in school sometimes exert physical punishment or harsh verbal abuse on students, suicides in school occur when students feel ashamed of themselves after receiving abusive treatments from teachers. Though the teachers in question were usually prosecuted afterwards, the suffering of the family and the shock to the society lingered long after such incidents. Praising, positive comments from a teacher is so important to the students that educators should always check their temper when dealing with even the most troubled student.
While it is almost common knowledge that severe punishment will harm children, sometimes people stress that fact too much by being afraid of correcting wrong-doings of their children. In some states in U.S., child protection service has the right to remove children from the family if any abusive actions from the parents are suspected. Parents, therefore, become nervous when it comes to child education, always in the fear of losing custody to their own child. Children raised by this kind of families tend to be spoiled, selfish, and without sense of sympathy, indicated by national survey conducted by sociologists. These children are also found to be lack in confidence, contrary to the wishes of their parents. Because they were never wrong when growing up, and always praised when they do something right, these children were not prepared for the competitive nature of our society, in which one must be responsible for their actions, right or wrong. As a consequence, they feel hurt and in doubt when they are approached by a supervisor or boss for doing something wrong. Their bumptious nature will only intensify such sense of humiliation and may lead to future life crisis.
Many social psychologists observe that the best way to educate youngsters is to help them identify what is right and wrong. To establish this sense of justice, children are encouraged to take up responsibilities of their own actions. They will be praised for doing the right thing, and will be moderately punished when doing something wrong. The most important step in this education approach is that the parent or teacher explains to the child why he or she is punished and what consequence his or her action may lead to and how he or she should act next time. Only by helping the children identify their faults, will they learn from it more efficiently. And by explaining the consequences, will the child become aware of his or her responsibilities and start developing towards a more independent and responsible person.
Educators should keep in mind that children need proper guidance, which include not only praise but also punishments. Over-stressing one while ignoring the other will almost always damage the mental development of children. To help our next generation develop truly independent and responsible personalities, parents need to sometimes focus on the negative action of their children and help them correct it by moderate punishment followed by detailed explanation.
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发表于 2012-9-25 01:44:17
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