【Native Speaker每日综合训练—38系列】【38-12】 文史哲 Marriage

happyxgb

time 2: 01:07
time 3: 01:27
time 4: 01:17
time 5: 01:47
time 6: 01:20
Obstacle: 09:43
1. listening to your heart leads more satisfaction in the marriage
2. Research indicates that guts feelings are over consciousness.
3. Research evaluates the reliability of intuitive feelings.
4. Two other studies, Justin and John prove the point respectively that premarital doubts from women influence the marital status and facial expressions have strong influences too.
5. Two counter examples show the importance of integrating head and heart, none of which is negligible.
6. So, people should keep both intellectual and intuitive eyes open

daisyjin

speaker.
Marriage lead the women to get weight, while the divorce makes the man to get weight. both reflect more clearly after age 30.
Marriage lead to longer life.
Happy marriage make life longer.

2.
The marriage is going down.
People got married early and rare divorce in the past.
Now people get married much later, and some do not have child.

3.
The intention of marriage has changed.
Increase in age of married, more single people, and more divorce are forcing people to find the way suitable to live.

4.
The mindset matters.
People get married, and hardly get divorce because others do do.
The original conception is uncontested, and people have no conscious to test it.
Marriage is dead.

5.
It was believed that true love is the aim to the marriage.
Richer people have lower rate of marriage back use they pursue to find true love.
When marriage refers to the intention, it become rage.
While the romance and love disappears,  the marriage dead.

6.
Putting the love to the primary principle in marriage is not wise:
Love is changeable.
Love is not strong enough to be the foundation.
Love is not all need.

Obstacle.
Intuition can help us to determine the quality of marriage.
Two example: following intuition, and following technology.
We need to combine two types.
True love of marriage is resulted from more intuitive heart than head.

viennall

speaker
Marrige makes people gain weight.
A good marrige might help mend broken heart.


speed
01'26 Marriage is going down.
01'43 For women, marriage is not the only economic support. They can have sex and children outside the marriage. They have their own community without marriage.
02'20 What all of the choices and possibilities of comtemporary life have  vanquished is a mindset. Marriage is dead.
02'17 People got married more for political or financial gain than love.
01'17 Love is a changable emotion. Love does not make for strong enough foundation. Love is far from all you need.


obstacle
08'27
main idea：The integration of intellectual reasoning and intuitive insights makes marriage satisfied.
structure：
Intuitive knowledge may lead you to a more satisfied marriage than intelligence does.
The implicit feelings are more reliable than explicit measures.
"Cold feet" is also an instutive automatic response.
However, sometimes people who listen to their hearts do not got satisfied marriage.
Intellectual reasoning and intuitive insights have cognitive advantages in different circumstances.
It is always best to go with your heart and keep your mind's eye wide open for marriage.

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TaoRs92

Marriage is going down.
Old trend. Formal generation's marriage.
Other possible explanations and trends. But the author think, marriage is going down.
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Marriage is changing more in ideology than numbers.
Before for women to marry--sex and raise children.
Now new communities that suit people without spouses.
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Marriage is uncontested, so people adapt to marriage just to become same with others.
Marriage is changing, even if more and more people getting married.
Marriage is dying.
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Marriage without love is  always thought unlucky.
Finance and other factors may become more important in choosing a person to marry.
When love becomes the reason of marriage, divorce rate gets higher.
Women rights also puts divorce rate up.
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Many people consider other factors rather than love first when get into a marriage. Details.
Three reasons why love is not the best thing to be involved in marriage.
1 love is changeable emotion
2 love cannot provide good foundation
3 love is far from what you need-respect...
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New finding--Intuitive implicit responds, rather than reliable knowledge works better in predicting a marriage.
The experiment/research. The reason why intuitive implicit responds can be used to make predictions.(bias and pretended positive leads)
Another example. Cold feet. Different significance in women and men. When intellectual reasoning overrides instinct, divorce rate rises.
Another example. Facial expressions predict best.
How to find a romantic partner.
Romantic love means we put our unspoken intuitive mind first and let it overrides our unspoken intellectual head.
Two opposite cases. One, combine heart with head. Two completely ignore the head.
How to integrate heart and head.
Intuitive thinking and intellectual insights are important in different circumstances. It's difficult to combine the implicit and explicit(intuitive or intellectual)at the same time.
Take love as an example. Positive and instinct always overrides and let us even ignore the intellectual parts.
Advice--follow our heart, while put an eye on our head.

lyreqq

为什么大家每篇的速度都比我快几十秒...。。
还要继续努力！！！！！！！！！
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2. 1:56
3. 1:53
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5. 2:30
OBSTACLE. 11：33

kun5850

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Orlandodong

1'57''  in 1950, marriage is important. however marriage is going down now.
2'17  dig out why - women don't have to marry for life support, can have sex and babies without marriage. people can chose their own life of being alone.
1'56  small trends together make it big. before, people have no other way to live despite marriage. for now, even though the marriage status could change, the marriage itself has changed forever.
2'56 Marriage is the only option before. but romance is depend on life condition. now life become easier and romance is increasing.
2'09'' Love need not be the #1 in relationship. reasons,
1. changeable 2 not fundamental 3 not "all you need"
10'37 mainly focus on how to choose lover. need to both follow the heart and listen to head.   

linlin000

T2 01:18
T3 01:34
T4 01:33
T5 02:03
T6 01:46

liuyangdi

time 2 01:46
compared to the past of the USA, more people choose to not get married as before and they are negative about the marriage. although some data have shown that it is possible this trend would reverse, the author don’t think it is gonna change.

prominence  n.显赫，凸起
perilous  adj. 危险的
nuclear family
upheaval  n.动乱，隆起

time 3 02:00
the fundamental situation would not be changed. in the past women would marry if they are poor, but now women have more choices themselves.

stigma  n. 耻辱

time 4 01:57
that old-times marriage is dead already. marriage is no longer the case of your life, and marriage may change with the times.

time 5 02:50
when in the old ages, the first demand of human is safety and hungry so the divorce rate is rare but with the open and expansion of the women rights, divorce rate rose.

wane  v. 衰落，减少
shaky  adj. 颤抖的，摇晃的
nuptial   adj. 婚姻的  n.婚礼

time 6 02:03
some people may get married because of some other reasons rather than love. and the author thought there are  3 reasons he think marriage would not be happy: changeable, not a solid foundation and love is not all you need.

obstacle time 11:27