（lz一年后又来闹事）我的故事--给所有在MBA混战中彷徨的小年轻们

liuxiaoyin

谢谢搂主，分享了这么好的文章~~~你的讲述是我意识到了出国会如此艰辛~~~我想我还是会出国，努力chase dream.相信搂主一定会再遇到一个全心全意爱你的人，加油~~~

NoY

我觉得楼主说的故事，似乎就好像在写我将要经历的东西一样，我跟楼主一样，可能背景跟其它牛人相比就跟小混混一样，但就是毅力大，我能考四次GMAT，从前三次最高的610，到最后一次的760，我考GMAT时也是跟疯了一样；我也不是什么名校毕业，学校的氛围就好像一直都是只有我在拼命给自己鼓着劲，没人跟你的goal是一样的，而且我也是个大文科生~~
还有，我也没有工作经验，可我就想干点大事儿，所以我比楼主还不知天高地厚得申请了IVY的MBA，我也经历了跟男朋友分手那段特别特别痛苦的period，我现在也很迷茫到底我是不是那少数——选择了这条路，但最后却能成功的人，但我觉得，可能什么事都得自己经历了，才能真正成长，whatever doesn't kill you,simply makes you stronger...这是我一直坚信的，把它也献给你吧，呵呵~~有时间想跟楼主好好聊聊~~

-- by 会员 NoY (2010/1/13 14:51:06)

是个同命人。你有勇气也敢于付诸行动，很不错，至少很多人就做不到。不过我以前那会，其实也没想过要干什么大事，我也从没有觉得，我会是少数能混过来的人.....所以，既然自己的起点低，在思想上，也得控制期望值，不然结局不如意的时候，会很失望的。我也很同意what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 不过你可得make sure, It doesn't kill you阿！

-- by 会员 totolin116 (2010/1/15 23:14:13)

是啊，好几次我都觉得快被killed了，但我觉得，有些事情，不管最后结果怎样，如果我还能“够”到，那就去试试，至少做了之后不会后悔，谋事在人，成事在天，我相信fate这东西，LZ你呢？~~

cannedpineapple

If everything you try is something that you think you 还能“够”到, then you haven't really challenged yourself. You're just doing things that are difficult, but that you knew you would be able to do.

That is not what makes you stronger.

totolin116> I have many experiences that are similar with you. But I have never felt disrespected in class. It's tough, but when that happens, sometimes you must stand your ground, and tell your teammates: "I made it in here just like you did. I have important ideas to contribute. And I believe you must hear me out."

Remember, the older and more experienced someone is, the smarter they may be, but the more stubborn they tend to get, and the worse they get at listening to others. That is the weakness of many who think they are 'smart, experienced, capable'. They no longer know how to challenge themselves to make themselves stronger. After all, if they're so 'smart, experienced, capable', they think, why do they even NEED to make themselves stronger anymore? So, they stop listening.

It's your job to shake them out of their arrogance, and remind them that they don't know everything.

I'm glad you've had a fantastic experience in the end; as I did. It's been quite a journey, no?

Jason

sisucsx

好文章，很激励人！加油！

frankwyf

不顶不行，向你学习~你是我们很多人的榜样，加油！

totolin116

感谢那些看轻我们的，放弃我们的人，让我们更坚强勇敢！
呵呵我的感情也是没守得住啊……
原因是我无法给别人安全感啊……
还在奋斗GMAT啊……哎

-- by 会员 shangshang16 (2010/1/25 13:42:12)

其实呢，想回去，当时看轻我的人，放弃我的人，也没有错。当时的自己，真的就是个幼稚的小Y头，没有实力，懒惰，也不懂得站在别人的角度想。也正是因为他们的看不起，才激起了我无限的斗心。唉，年轻人，就爱赌气。所以，最终是得感谢他们，没有他们，我也长不大。

我觉得出国读书的人，下的是一个超级大赌注，自己本身都很没有安全感，所以很难给另一半安全感。另一半看着你出国，也觉得自己在下一个超级大的赌注，整天提心吊胆。所以，两个极度没有安全感的人根本没办法从对方身上得到安全感，一个说姑奶奶我累了，另一个说老子我更累。说白了就是年少气盛，自我中心，意志溃散，blablabla。所以，那些刻骨铭心死去活来的爱情，最后都得卑微地向现实低头。 一针见血一句话，我们都太年轻，不揪心痛过就不懂得宽容和坚强，不深深伤过就不懂得勇敢和责任。爱情如此，人生同样。

唉，不好意思，今天特感慨，说得太多，老板出差，闲出个p来。都快成居委会大妈了，大家可以忽略我。

totolin116

感觉和LZ好像，一年级在读。。

-- by 会员 kittyv (2010/1/27 10:49:17)

加油，第一年最艰苦。压力太大的时候，建议看看关于医生的电视剧，例如grey's anatomy, 看到生老病死和医生们纠结的生活后，就会觉得自己那点事儿真的没啥。

totolin116

冷暖自知,但是信心和毅力是无法被打倒的.我是F2来美国的,现在在复习GMAT,深有体会...朋友们加油!!一起努力!

-- by 会员 rebecca_wang (2010/1/26 10:48:10)

哭吧。哭完后复习特别带劲，效率特高。

totolin116

我觉得楼主说的故事，似乎就好像在写我将要经历的东西一样，我跟楼主一样，可能背景跟其它牛人相比就跟小混混一样，但就是毅力大，我能考四次GMAT，从前三次最高的610，到最后一次的760，我考GMAT时也是跟疯了一样；我也不是什么名校毕业，学校的氛围就好像一直都是只有我在拼命给自己鼓着劲，没人跟你的goal是一样的，而且我也是个大文科生~~
还有，我也没有工作经验，可我就想干点大事儿，所以我比楼主还不知天高地厚得申请了IVY的MBA，我也经历了跟男朋友分手那段特别特别痛苦的period，我现在也很迷茫到底我是不是那少数——选择了这条路，但最后却能成功的人，但我觉得，可能什么事都得自己经历了，才能真正成长，whatever doesn't kill you,simply makes you stronger...这是我一直坚信的，把它也献给你吧，呵呵~~有时间想跟楼主好好聊聊~~

-- by 会员 NoY (2010/1/13 14:51:06)

是个同命人。你有勇气也敢于付诸行动，很不错，至少很多人就做不到。不过我以前那会，其实也没想过要干什么大事，我也从没有觉得，我会是少数能混过来的人.....所以，既然自己的起点低，在思想上，也得控制期望值，不然结局不如意的时候，会很失望的。我也很同意what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 不过你可得make sure, It doesn't kill you阿！

-- by 会员 totolin116 (2010/1/15 23:14:13)

是啊，好几次我都觉得快被killed了，但我觉得，有些事情，不管最后结果怎样，如果我还能“够”到，那就去试试，至少做了之后不会后悔，谋事在人，成事在天，我相信fate这东西，LZ你呢？~~

-- by 会员 NoY (2010/1/27 15:05:21)

鉴于算命太太说我命会很长，我相信fate, 呵。嗯，当我们失望失去失落的时候，只能说句that's my fate that's my way了。我相信天意，偶尔也认命，但也不懈努力就是了。

totolin116

If everything you try is something that you think you 还能“够”到, then you haven't really challenged yourself. You're just doing things that are difficult, but that you knew you would be able to do.

That is not what makes you stronger.

totolin116> I have many experiences that are similar with you. But I have never felt disrespected in class. It's tough, but when that happens, sometimes you must stand your ground, and tell your teammates: "I made it in here just like you did. I have important ideas to contribute. And I believe you must hear me out."

Remember, the older and more experienced someone is, the smarter they may be, but the more stubborn they tend to get, and the worse they get at listening to others. That is the weakness of many who think they are 'smart, experienced, capable'. They no longer know how to challenge themselves to make themselves stronger. After all, if they're so 'smart, experienced, capable', they think, why do they even NEED to make themselves stronger anymore? So, they stop listening.

It's your job to shake them out of their arrogance, and remind them that they don't know everything.

I'm glad you've had a fantastic experience in the end; as I did. It's been quite a journey, no?

Jason

-- by 会员 jelt2359 (2010/1/27 21:55:57)

Jason兄弟，我很羡慕你有跟他们正面对峙的勇气和口才。我这类小妹put my foot down 的能力不是很强。我都是默默努力，等有一天突然写了个很好的paper, 做了很好的presentation, 考试拿了很高的分，找到了一份很好的工作，别人才刮目相看。包括现在工作，有时我明明知道自己是对的，就是没有足够勇气撑下去，最后虽然他们都知道自己错了，但却令项目也受损了。这是我的一大缺点，有空还请你多赐教阿，哈。

嗯，这两年的确是像天天在坐过山车。不过最后感觉很畅快。你也加油。