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25了,我好累,大家是怎么想的?

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101#
发表于 2007-11-26 03:39:00 | 只看该作者

说点正经的,我自己的经历

大学毕业第一年:知道自己想要什么(21岁)

大学毕业第二年:知道自己想要什么,但有点怀疑(22岁)

大学毕业第三年:原来想要的不是我真的想要的,趁着年轻,赶紧改(23岁)

大学毕业第四年:有新的想法了,还来得及(24岁)

大学毕业第五年:原来的想法都推翻了,没有新的想法,混吧(25岁)

大学毕业第六年:混吧,及时行乐是王道,人不风流枉少年,青春一去不复返(26岁)

大学毕业第七年:这么混不是回事,找条出路吧(27岁)

大学毕业第八年:找了一年,终于找到了。不是找到想要的,而是就剩这一条路了,不能越活越回去(28岁)

人生很漫长,成长很痛苦。人都是这么过来的,每年都有新的希望,也有新的烦恼。如何选择,如何排解,个人有别。指望一劳永逸,那不现实。

熬过这个坎,明天会更好?那要感谢老天爷,不光天上掉馅饼了,还正好掉我嘴里了。

熬过这个坎,明天有新坎?这事太正常了,天上掉的馅饼能没砂子吗?囫囵囫囵就咽了,日子还得过

102#
发表于 2007-11-26 04:20:00 | 只看该作者

很久没有来CD了,看到你的贴子觉得我们有相似之处。

我和你同龄,今年23岁,我从小到大都是泡在书本里长大的,一直都是top student,但是高考的确时候听从父母的意见,为求稳妥报低了志愿,结果比录取线高了60多分进了一所并不满意的大学,学了一个不喜欢的专业。我也曾感叹过命运的不公平,但是从来没有因此放弃,因为我不甘于平庸,不甘于寂寞,不愿意像周围很多同学那样醉生梦死放任自流得过且过地浪费青春。既然走到这条路上来,就要慢慢学会适应,学会爱上自己的专业,哪怕是骗自己,也要爱上它。

其实我出国的原因很简单,就是觉得自己与这个环境格格不入,希望有一天自己会飞得很高很高,向所有人证明我的价值。即使失败又怎样呢,因为我还年轻,因为我一无所有,所以也就无所谓失去。

真的,相信自己,25岁依旧年轻。其实如果你决心选择奋斗,何时都不为晚。

我觉得一个人在年轻的时候是需要奋斗的,如果总在患得患失的犹豫中为自己的懒惰找借口的话,今后也许会后悔。幸福不是别人给的,而是自己给的,一个人,尤其是女人,如果把自己的幸福寄托在别人的身上,是一件很危险、很危险的事情。

我从来没有谈过恋爱,因为喜欢一个人自由自在的感觉,无忧无虑,没有束缚,我不会去在意别人怎么想,只要过自己安静快乐的生活。

至少我觉得自己现在的学习生活充实而快乐,能够被美国top 5的大学录取是我多年奋斗的结果。但是我相信一切只是刚刚拉开序幕————Ivy league,是我野心开始的地方。

也许我们的人生观价值观有所不同,但是无论如何,要相信你的潜力,你要相信人的潜力是无限的,当你专注地投入到为梦想而努力的过程中时,你会惊叹自己是多么伟大。

103#
发表于 2007-11-26 10:08:00 | 只看该作者
To matthewmars,
There are Type IV girls. Women can have everything.

Women MBAs, Entrepreneurship, and Kids


    

        

            

I
spoke this morning to an adcom member from a leading MBA program that
has a less than the typical percentage of women among its students. The
adcom member explained that his school is working diligently to
increase the number of women applying and attending his school. It is
trying to set up a mentoring system, work with women in the corporate
arena, and bring in female corporate role models.


            

Our conversation reminded me of an article I wrote, but did not
publish. I am publishing it here, but be warned -- it is longer than a
typical blog post.


            

Kids, 30%, and Entrepreneurship -- What do they have to do with women in management?


            

The evening was classy and the speakers, female current students and
recent alumni, were good. The purpose: a recruiting event for
prospective female MBAs sponsored by a number of top business schools.
The panelists discussed admissions tactics, classes, internships, the
hot jobs they were aiming for or had attained, and how they felt their
MBA had enhanced or would enhance their career.


            

During the Q&A that followed, one prospective MBA dared to raise
a subject that had seemed like an unmentionable during the entire
evening: kids. She asked about attending b-school or pursuing a
business career while raising children. I watched fascinated as most of
the young women present nodded in agreement, and the room buzzed with
relief that someone had finally brought up this issue, perhaps the
issue uppermost in many of their minds. Unfortunately, none of the
panel members had children, and not one could respond from personal
experience.


            

Inexplicably, the organizers of this event had not anticipated the
need to address family/work balance while attempting to increase female
MBA enrollment, stubbornly stuck at roughly 30% in U.S. schools for the
last twenty-five years. Business schools must be prepared to answer
that question. The recent Catalyst study showed concern about the lack of balance is the second most frequently cited reason women give for not pursuing an MBA.


            

Another topic was barely mentioned that evening: entrepreneurship.
Its absence from b-school efforts to recruit women also contributes to
the schools’ failure to increase female representation. According to
the Center for Women’s Business Research, there are 10.1 million
privately-held 50% or more women-owned businesses in the United States.
Those 10.1 million businesses represent 46% of privately held companies
-- approaching parity -- and offer opportunity to b-schools if they too
want to achieve the Holy Grail of parity.


            

Business schools don’t exclusively prepare students for rigid
corporate careers; they also train MBAs for entrepreneurship, which
frequently provides greater flexibility and a richer family-work
balance. Business schools should highlight and market this invaluable
training and the flexibility it can bring as they strive to attract
women and demolish that 30% barrier.


            

I am acutely aware of the value of an MBA in starting my own
business. I earned my MBA from UCLA’s Graduate School of Management
(today the Anderson School) in 1979. When I started my business in the
early 1990’s, I had six children, ranging in age from 3 to 12.
My
independence gave me the variable hours I craved. The ability to
schedule my work times around my children’s school hours, limit hours
initially, and ultimately increase them as my children (and business)
grew was critical to me. My MBA played a leading role in my business’
success and in my ability to balance, usually, the demands of family
and work.


            

So yes, Accepted.com is one of
those 10.1 million women-owned businesses, and I am an MBA who has
defied the stereotypes in pursuing my personal and professional goals.
I urge the MBA establishment and young women considering an MBA to look
beyond the corporate landscape. Explore the infinite possibilities for
women and business schools in entrepreneurship.


        

    

    
104#
发表于 2007-11-26 13:09:00 | 只看该作者
以下是引用originchen在2007-11-11 20:52:00的发言:

也见过很多能够叱咤风云而且能处理好家庭的女人,当然见得更多的如你所说的小鸟依人般的女人;

It looks like  a false  dilemma. Why not both? 

105#
发表于 2007-11-28 20:37:00 | 只看该作者

努力成为你命中注定要成为的那个人

 

fighting!
106#
发表于 2007-11-28 23:21:00 | 只看该作者

24

还在加班, 预计12点能下班, 这样的生活已经持续一年.

回去还要essay到3点,

每天起床都问自问一遍, 我要不要辞职

累到无法言说

107#
发表于 2007-11-29 01:06:00 | 只看该作者
LS的,同情你一记
108#
发表于 2007-12-12 05:37:00 | 只看该作者

MM的家庭(包括亲情和爱情)与事业根本不是矛盾的,而是相互促进的。根本不需要为了一者放弃另外一者。好的家庭/爱情能够帮助MM们实现事业上的梦想,事业上的收获能带给自己和家庭更多的快乐。

我是个从小就特别享受学习、享受工作的人,喜欢思维,喜欢智慧,喜欢努力和坚持,喜欢与高水准的人和事打交道。虽然我的父母和BF都有足够的能力让我不工作待家里,但他们都很了解我:一来,我是个特别能从学习和工作中得到快乐的人,要我天天待家里做家庭主妇,我肯定不会真正开心;二来,我现在也有能力做到思想和经济上的独立,没有必要认为我必须100%依靠他们。我BF一直说,他最大的希望,就是我能够拥有独立的人格。

当然了,我是MM,肯定会在工作学习中有压力,会有疲倦的时候。每当这个时候,家庭和爱情就特别让我幸福。因为我父母和BF都说,只要我哪天不想读/不想工作了,我就回家或者去他们的企业,他们有能力养我。哪天我要是又想再次自己闯了,他们也全力支持我。只要是我的梦想、我开心的事情,他们都支持。

虽然我至今没有回家休养过,但每当我累的时候,只要一想到家庭和爱情给了我这么稳的后盾,就觉得特别安心、内心稳得很。也就能开心轻松的享受自己的学习和工作了。。。做BF的MM已经好几年,做我父母的女儿更是超过20年,在这么多年来,我的学习和工作一直是很轻松就名列前茅,这跟他们的理解和支持是分不开的:)

109#
发表于 2007-12-12 09:22:00 | 只看该作者
以下是引用Ville在2007-11-26 4:20:00的发言:

很久没有来CD了,看到你的贴子觉得我们有相似之处。

我和你同龄,今年23岁,我从小到大都是泡在书本里长大的,一直都是top student,但是高考的确时候听从父母的意见,为求稳妥报低了志愿,结果比录取线高了60多分进了一所并不满意的大学,学了一个不喜欢的专业。我也曾感叹过命运的不公平,但是从来没有因此放弃,因为我不甘于平庸,不甘于寂寞,不愿意像周围很多同学那样醉生梦死放任自流得过且过地浪费青春。既然走到这条路上来,就要慢慢学会适应,学会爱上自己的专业,哪怕是骗自己,也要爱上它。

其实我出国的原因很简单,就是觉得自己与这个环境格格不入,希望有一天自己会飞得很高很高,向所有人证明我的价值。即使失败又怎样呢,因为我还年轻,因为我一无所有,所以也就无所谓失去。

真的,相信自己,25岁依旧年轻。其实如果你决心选择奋斗,何时都不为晚。

我觉得一个人在年轻的时候是需要奋斗的,如果总在患得患失的犹豫中为自己的懒惰找借口的话,今后也许会后悔。幸福不是别人给的,而是自己给的,一个人,尤其是女人,如果把自己的幸福寄托在别人的身上,是一件很危险、很危险的事情。

我从来没有谈过恋爱,因为喜欢一个人自由自在的感觉,无忧无虑,没有束缚,我不会去在意别人怎么想,只要过自己安静快乐的生活。

至少我觉得自己现在的学习生活充实而快乐,能够被美国top 5的大学录取是我多年奋斗的结果。但是我相信一切只是刚刚拉开序幕————Ivy league,是我野心开始的地方。

也许我们的人生观价值观有所不同,但是无论如何,要相信你的潜力,你要相信人的潜力是无限的,当你专注地投入到为梦想而努力的过程中时,你会惊叹自己是多么伟大。

well said

110#
发表于 2007-12-12 10:09:00 | 只看该作者

我在MBA一年级过完自己25岁的生日,虽然很多同学比我有阅历,上课时很多观点,很多知识我都是第一次听到,有时候也有很强的挫败感,但是要相信自己,25岁有时候是种资本,因为你必须看到积极的一面。

所以做你自己想做的,不要没事乱感叹命不好。呵呵。每个人背后都有坎坷的经历,你既然申请MBA,以后遇到的事情比你在国内的还要烦心很多。Just hang in there!!

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