申请正痛苦，女友突然说分手，唉！

usasky

兄弟我当年也碰到这种事，的确是因为GF不想出国而对你缺乏安全感，可能她已经有人追了。
不过事过境迁，未来会更好的，GOOD LUCK！

fd

不知道THOMASIR兄弟自己是不是已经尽了力去挽救这份感情？如果在你的GF提出分手的时候，其实自己也没有去坚持的话，我一定不会劝你把她放下。要知道，分手是有惯性的，第一次分手很难熬，第二第三次就好多了，第四第五次可能已经不是什么问题。。。。这是好事吗？表示你已经变成一个成熟的男人了吗？绝对不是！

人是很软弱的，时常在软弱的时候做出不合适的决定，说出不合适的话，在这个时候，对方也顺势推一把的话，当然就没有挽救的机会。但机会是靠自己创造和争取的，不到最后一刻就轻言放弃，这才是不够“男人”的作为，不是说把女人把感情看得轻就是男子汉大丈夫的，男人越早有一个稳定的家庭，越有利于事业发展。而感情在稳定之前，大多数是要经过风吹雨打的，有的时候甚至是看上去没有了生路，但谁说绝处不能逢生呢？关键是你自己，是不是也在怀疑，也不敢坚持？

有没有问过女孩的好朋友，她到底是怎么想的，最好能尽快跟她的朋友研究一下挽救的方法。如果什么力都已经尽过，那当然只能算了，但各位朋友，真的不要轻言放弃，一定要记住“放弃是有惯性的！”感情不是事业的装饰品而是后盾，后盾的厚度需要时间去积累。

好好再跟她谈一谈吧。不要总把希望寄托在将来。兄弟，加油！

fool

同意楼上的. 不会珍惜现在的人把握不住明天. "感情不是事业的装饰品而是后盾，后盾的厚度需要时间去积累。"出国不是解决问题的良方, 出来很辛苦的, 特别是男孩子. 出国以后也不保证"brilliant future".还是要靠自己的不懈努力.  每一天都是生活,正视问题, 不要等过了什么什么再如何如何.

完全可以写进essay,如果你能从中悟出很多东西的话.

坚持向前, 成功男人的行动更有吸引力. 同时也要明白, 真正合适幸福的感情, 应该不是阻止你前进的阻力吧. 甜美的爱情值得我们不断的追求,付出,珍惜...

braveMBA

三草法：

兔子不吃窝边草
好马不吃回头草
天涯何处无芳草

znprc

>The Old Man and His Shoe
>
>One day an old man boarded a bus. As he was going up the steps, one of his
>shoes slipped off. The door closed and the bus moved off so he was unable
>to retrieve it. The old man calmly took off his other shoe and threw it
out
>of the window.
>
>A young man on the bus saw what happened, and could not help going up to
>the old man and asking, "I noticed what you did, sir."Why did you throw
out
>your other shoe?" The old man promptly replied, "So that whoever finds
them
>will be able to use them." The old man in the story understood a
>fundamental philosophy for life - do not hold on to something simply for
>the sake of possessing it or because you do not wish others to have it.
>
>We lose things all the time. The loss may seem to us grievous and unjust
>initially, but loss only happens so that positive changes can occur in our
>lives. We should not always assume that losing something is bad, because
if
>things do not shift, we'll never become better people or experience better
>things. That's not to say of course that we only lose "bad" things; it
>simply means that in order for us to mature emotionally and spiritually,
>and for us to contribute to the world, the interchange between loss and
>gain is necessary.
>
>Like the old man in the story, we have to learn to let go. The world had
>decided that it was time for the old man to lose his shoe. Maybe this
>happened to add momentum to a series of events leading to a better pair of
>shoes for the old man. Maybe the search for another pair of shoes would
>lead the old man to a great benefactor. Maybe the world decided that
>someone else needed the shoes more.
>
>Whatever the reason, we can't avoid losing things.The old man understood
>this. One of his shoes had gone out of his reach. The remaining shoe would
>not have been much help to him, but it would be a cherished gift to a
>homeless person desperately in need of protection from the ground.
>
>Hoarding possessions does nothing to make us or the world better.We all
>have to decide constantly if some things or people have run their course
in
>our lives or would be better off with others.We then have to muster the
>courage to give them away.

gracehu

以下是引用tsljz在2003-11-19 3:42:00的发言：
挺住，兄弟。人生本来就不是你付出什么就一定能够得到什么，争取做得更好吧。

However, I still believe that you must gain something if you pay out.
BTW, it will be worse if you two broke up after you arrived  N.A.

gracehu

如果你们现在没有分手，你到了国外以后每天想她，那时候再分手还不如现在呢。does it make sense?

gracehu

早痛比晚痛强，因为早痛比晚痛轻！

gracehu

sorry!!!我以为没有回贴没成功,结果竟传了三次

chipmunk

以下是引用gracehu在2003-11-28 7:05:00的发言：
sorry!!!我以为没有回贴没成功,结果竟传了三次

That's fine. I am sure Thomas brother will remember what you said three times deeper.