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板凳

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发表于 2013-5-25 18:36:08
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Should we never lie to our friends? The answer may differ from person to person, and culture to culture. From my perspective, the answer is NO.
Firstly, even though we disagree that people can always keep honest to their friends, I have to admit that in most circumstances, people should be honest and loyal to friends. Let’s try to reexamine the meaning and definition of friendship. In my opinion, friendship refers to that friends share very similar interest, respect each other and are willing to communicate with each other. Therefore, honesty is one essential element of friendship and often related to whether we treat friendship with sincere heart. For this reason, everybody expects his or her friends to always tell truth to them. Also if one person is always dishonest to his friends, he will finally lose all his friends.
However, there are exceptional cases under which people have to be not so honest to their friends with the purpose of protecting friends or encourage friends. Firstly, we cannot deny that in many cases lying to friends is a kind of behavior actually protecting friends. For example, if one of my friends was proved to have got a lethal kind of illness: cancer. We, all of his friends, knew that this guy was weak-minded and might be unable to bear the bad news. The doctor also told us try to conceal this illness information to him. So in this case what should we do, to tell him the truth or not? Another exception is encouragement. I remember that when I was a little boy, I liked playing piano pretty much. So I often asked my friends how they felt my piano performance. Luckily, all I got were phrases. Now I know, they praised me not for my good playing, but to encourage me to make a better progress.
Thirdly, sometimes people may lie to their friends for the interest of more prior level, for example, the interest of country. For example, most of Chinese adults have watched a well-known TV show named The Spy. In this TV show, the spy may cheat all kinds of people including his own friends. Why did he do this? Because he cannot reveal his true identity, which is secret spy. In another case, sometimes, people may sacrifice their friends to earn justice or for the interest of nation, despite that they may be dishonest to their friends. For examples, when our friends make criminals or disobey the public rules, we should testimony them or send them to the cops, even they are friends to us. So it is totally understandable that people may lie to their friends for the public interest.
Finally but not least, the fact that we may be possible to dishonest or tell write lies to our friends does not mean that we can form the habit of lying to friends. Just as what I said in the second paragraph, people should try their best to keep honest to friends, to be loyal to friends, and to treat friends with the whole heart. Only in some extreme circumstances, the rule is broken.
For these reasons discussed above, we may easily realize that friendship does not mean no lies, and that in many cases people may sacrifice the friendship for the public interests.
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