[speaker]
good marriage, help, heart surgery survival
[time2]
1 opinion: marriage, go down, from census slowing
[time3]
2 past: women marriage for economic; now: lots of substitutes
[time4]
3 marriage ,never be the same again
mindset change: self-evident to not uncontested any more
[time5]
love is luxury
origin: 1800s, romance to technological advances,women's rights and laws
love won't last
[time6]
sth prio to love for marriage
respect, shared goals, compatibility
[obstacle]
1- marriage by implicit intuitions, study: integration is advantageous, intuitions more imiportant, intellectual better
2-discussion: choosing romantic partner,2 issues
result: integrate head and heart
今天的文章生词不多,主要看行文思路的梳理。obstacle有1400字,好久没读这么长了,差点被梅一段一段的内容绕进去忽略了big picture。总体感觉这篇obstacle分了两个大段,一开始举了不同的study,给出不同的观点;然后author再抛出自己的观点配了两个案例。其实就是说感性和理性要均衡不偏离。
想起一段我自己关于relationship很喜欢的描述,也贴过来:
Every person we meet, we are meant to meet. No matter how long they stay in our lives.
Every person has something to teach us. Whether they stay for an hour, a day, or 10 years, they appear at the right moment and are there for the right amount of time. That amount of time is simply how long it takes you to learn the soul lesson. There are 6 billion people in this world, Nothing is an accident. : )
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