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[阅读小分队] 【Native Speaker每日综合训练—38系列】【38-12】 文史哲 Marriage

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发表于 2014-6-29 23:23:57 | 显示全部楼层

Time2 1:35
Time3 1:45
Time4 1:33
Time5 2:37
Time6 1:55
Obstacle 9:14
发表于 2014-6-30 00:13:12 | 显示全部楼层
交作业!可以安心看球了
[speaker]
Marriage/divorce’s influence to men and women’s weight
Marriage’s influence to people getting by-pass surgery.

[time2]
Marriage is going down.
The peak of marriage is mid-1950. Reasons: get married earlier than ever; almost all couples had children. But current situation is completely contrasted.
List phenomenon to certify marriage is going down.
Although the trend may slow or even reverse, I still believe in that.

[time 3]
Three reasons used to make women married early: no work; sex; and children.
But the reasons are not handicap to women any longer.
Increasing people live along or with housemate. Even married people would like to keep their own apartment.

[time 4]
In 1950, marriage was dominant. Everyone will spend adulthood in marriage and have a nuclear family. And others will follow because it is what everyone else does. Marriage was how people survived then.
But now marriage is dead.

[time 5]
People think they should marry for love. While I disagree.
People should take account finance.
Industry Revolution brought people two things: romance and easier life, which made people have more choices for marriage. But more choices, more divorces.
We have seriously weakened the institution.

[rest]
People marry for reasons other than love, which is called settling, probably have longer and better marriage because they have defined purpose and they are unlikely to have unrealistic demand to their spouse.
Love should not be No.1 reason for marriage. Three reasons: changeable emotion, weak foundation, need more than love.

[time 6]
People are criticized for intuitive overriding intelligence when it comes to marriage. But reliance on intuitive is more likely lead you to a happier marriage because intuitive will not lie.
The first study: Intuitive could be used to predict whether the marriage will be happy or not. Couples’ discontent is reflected in their feelings and intuitive and will decide the outcome of the marriage. While, intuitive, as well as intellectual knowledge is advantageous.
The second study: code feet, which is an affection of intuitive. More cold feet, women are more likely to divorce. Also the study discussed the relationship of romance doubt and divorce for men and women separately.
The third study: choose romantic partner, unspoken heart and intellectual head
Two examples: both follow their heart, but the one use intelligence achieved a profound marriage, while the opposite one left her husband.
Integrate head and heart.
Heart could be wrong. So we need intelligence help us make decisions about love.
An example: love at first sight-intuitive; thinking about negative aspect-intelligence.
Conclusion: integrate head and heart.
发表于 2014-6-30 08:57:11 | 显示全部楼层
[speaker]
good  marriage, help, heart surgery survival
[time2]
1 opinion: marriage, go down, from census slowing
[time3]
2 past: women marriage for economic; now: lots of substitutes
[time4]
3 marriage ,never be the same again
mindset change: self-evident to not uncontested any more
[time5]
love is luxury
origin: 1800s, romance to technological advances,women's rights and laws
love won't last
[time6]
sth prio to love for marriage
respect, shared  goals, compatibility

[obstacle]
1- marriage by implicit intuitions, study: integration is advantageous, intuitions more imiportant, intellectual better
2-discussion: choosing romantic partner,2 issues
result: integrate head and heart


今天的文章生词不多,主要看行文思路的梳理。obstacle有1400字,好久没读这么长了,差点被梅一段一段的内容绕进去忽略了big picture。总体感觉这篇obstacle分了两个大段,一开始举了不同的study,给出不同的观点;然后author再抛出自己的观点配了两个案例。其实就是说感性和理性要均衡不偏离。
想起一段我自己关于relationship很喜欢的描述,也贴过来:
Every person we meet, we are meant to meet. No matter how long they stay in our lives.
Every person has something to teach us. Whether they stay for an hour, a day, or 10 years, they appear at the right moment and are there for the right amount of time. That amount of time is simply how long it takes you to learn the soul lesson. There are 6 billion people in this world, Nothing is an accident. : )



发表于 2014-6-30 09:24:25 | 显示全部楼层
Time 2 2’19’’
The author gives reasons that marriage is going down.
Time 3 2’41’’
Illustrate why marriages is going down ,with the advances in reproductive science.
Time 4 2’22’’
Marriage dominated not because it really was the best way to live for everyone, but because it was uncontested. Marriage will never be the same.
Time 5 4’32’’
An emotional expert points out that we should not marriage only because of love. Then he gives some reason for that point.
Obstacle
Experts give us reasons that when choosing a romantic partner, it is always best to go with your heart, but to keep your mind’s eyes wide open.
发表于 2014-6-30 09:59:41 | 显示全部楼层
Part I: Speaker
good marriage helps people live longer, statistics about longevity of person who received heart surgery.

[Time 2]
1'40
in US, marriage was stable, more people desired long term marriage in 1950's.
the trend is going down

[Time 3]
1'43
in morden society, women do not face the the jobless and sexism alot, resulting they can love by themselves.
more people choose late marriage and single life

[Time 4]
1'36
people have more chooses and models for daily life
marriage is never the only choose, and is over.

[Time 5/rest]
3'40
not real that to marry for love, other elment, food, accounted
before 1800, romance and technology had been setted for better life, rare divorce happened
3 not for love
love changes
not for fundation
far from 'need'

Part III: Obstacle
9'40
to choose a partner with emotion and inteligency
to follow the initial love could lead wrong
examples of two women
when met lover, to start from heart and to use brain
发表于 2014-6-30 10:02:40 | 显示全部楼层
time2
marriage is going down comparing to that in 1950 when marriage and nuclear family were at the peak

time3
women lived up to marriage to bring them the life support and sex without shame before but now they can reproductive and live without marriage
they have more chooses about their life style-live aline or live with good friend to form a new community

time4
marriage dominated not because it is the best way to live for everyone,but because it was uncontested

time5
love is a luxury and what people want to get from marriage is what they need most like safety,money except people have all

time6
people who married for other than love have longer and better marriage because  they made the decision for defined purpose
in author’s opinion,it is not wise to marry for love because love is changeable emotion and far from all your need

obstacle
we should take into account of both intuitive emotional and intelligence
发表于 2014-6-30 11:11:31 | 显示全部楼层
Time 2
Marriage went to its peak period during 1950s, including the early marriage time, children rate and low divorce rate, but the trend is slower than before or even reverses base on resent census.
Time 3
For women, marriage can be an economic life support.
The number of staying alone and the pattern of staying alone have been growing.
Time 4
People seldom contest marriage before because they think marriage is self-evident and few think they have other life style to be chosen.
Time 5
When love become the reason of marriage, divorce is easier to happen.
Rest:
Love should not be the first reason for marriage, because love cannot sustain for long. In a solid relationship, respect, common goal and compatibility are more important.
发表于 2014-6-30 11:34:23 | 显示全部楼层
Speaker:
Women gain more weight than men after marriage and men usually gain weight after divorce.
Long standing union help people survive from heart surgeries. Married people are more than single to survive after the surgery.
Happy women benifit from marriage to have longer life.

Time2: 1:26
In mid-1950s, people were getting married earlier than before and rarely divorce. But no one had predicted the upheavals of population.
I am sure that marriage is going down.
Time3:1:41
Once women have to get married to live a better life and have sex and children without shame.But now women can earn a living themselves and have sex without getting pregnant.
These decade more people stay single, get married later and divorce frequently. Their lifestyle is changing and they might live together as a community.
Time4: 1:36
Marriage was the only way to live without being criticized, but now it will never be the same. People will not rush to marriage as they are expected to. So marriage is dead.
Time5: 2:06
We might have sympathy on people who do not get married for love. Love is a luxury thing, and when people get married for love, they usually have their other needs satisfied.Unless marriage is a way for someone to get rid of poor life.
In Victorian age, many people got married because of political reasons. They have low divorece rate and their marriage was more stable. But when love became reason for marriage, the divorce rate increased. This was more obvious in the age of women right movements.
The reason why love could cause marriage unstableness is that love is a more complex factor that could change and fade, draging marriage along with it.
obstacle: 10:44
Intuition is a more accurate prediction of marriage. A research involve several couples investigated their feelings before marriage and their situation after 4 years. It showed that subconcious know more about marriage than concious.
The newly married couples might have distoreted feelings about their marriage. However, their intuition knowledge can still be tested. Another study showed that a marriage with more doubt tend to be more possible of divorce.
Another exemple is that the contempt of one's partner could be told from facial expressions.
The real issue is that we should listen to our unspoken intellectual heart rather than spoken heart when we are choosing a companion. Two women was cited as exemples on how they followed their hearts and ended differently.
Integration of explicit and implicit attitudes is good way to think about marriage. Although there is love at first sight, it is wise to keep an open mind.
发表于 2014-6-30 12:48:06 | 显示全部楼层
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发表于 2014-6-30 14:01:48 | 显示全部楼层
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