三篇机警作文求拍，先谢过了

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Letting a friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing something which will destroy the friendship.

 

 

What really matters in a friendship? 

 

How to choose when you are fully aware that your friend is making the wrong decision, yet frank suggestion may end up with destroying your friendship? Undoubtedly, everyone attempts to be an easy-going, sociable and humorous person and some of us would believe that maintaining a good relationship definitely takes precedence over revealing the truth, not to mention their thoughts that lessons from the mistakes is of great value to our friends. From my point of view, however, I tend to disagree with the statement in that proper straightforwardness is the foundation of friendship and sometimes the cost of mistake is extremely high.

 

First and foremost, proper straightforwardness in the long run will surely enhance the mutual trust and benefit between real friends while the practice of purposely choosing to tell the truth of the bright side without warning potential risk fails to meet the standard of true friends. Admittedly, always telling the truth will sometimes hurt people's feeling, and some white lies

are desirable as indicators of respect and courtesy under certain social circumstances.  Nevertheless, those occasions should not justify the behavior of hiding the truth. Sharing your real feeling  with your friends and proposing advices to them, and warning  the potential hazards, might be offensive at the very beginning , yet that kind of behavior is what friends will not hesitate to choose for the sake of friendship, and eventually your friends would be grateful to what you have done. My personal experience illustrates the point clearly. One of my best friends, George, having charming character yet with a fatal weak point, always cheated his girlfriend. Her girlfriend had no choice but to leave him after his unfaithfulness once again. I usually tried to communicate with him showing the negative effect of those practices. However, he would never listen and sometimes even claimed that I overreacted to the behavior deemed cool by his other friends. After the first year of my university, I received a email from him expressing his apology and regretting on losing the one who he really care about. He also mentions that he might change his mind if more of his friends would try to persuade him and he would always remember what I have done and our friendship.

 

Furthermore, sometimes, we cannot afford to make such an expensive mistake. Human beings, especially young adults, do tend to act on impulsions without careful evaluating the negative or even disastrous consequences. Although lessons from those wrong doings are valuable, the price is prohibitively high and we can avoid such expensive mistakes by just

listening to others' suggestions. For example, cheating on the exams, copying other authors' ideas without citing them as reference are typical of unethical behaviors on campus and it is necessary to prevent our friends to do so when they pay too much attention to final marks without taking school policy seriously. Moreover, if one is an employee in a company finding that one of his senior managers as well as best friend is doing insider trading, the only right thing to do is to prevent him from continuing to do so. Such illegal behaviors, left unnoticed or untreated, would without doubt send him to the jail. Is it more advisable to warn him of the risk at the beginning rather than concealing the truth at the expense of ruining his life?

 

In conclusion, letting a friend to make a mistake without warning or preventing will eventually harm the friendship as well as our friend. Proper straightforwardness in the long run is in the interest of both the friendship

by fostering more trust and one's friend as well by eliminating some unbearable mistakes.

 

pay more attention to appearance and fashion,

 

 

The assertion that a great deal of importance is attached to fashion and appearance is obviously in accordance with our personal experience, and I would demonstrate the evidence and possible reasons for this social change from my own perspective.

 

 It takes little effort to observe evidences to show people's focus on appearance and fashion. Currently, an increasing number of  people would choose to go on a diet , even not being overweighed at all,  or attend physical fitness club more than  health concern. Cosmetics industry achieves huge commercial success by appealing to women's lack of confidence in their appearance and a strong desire to be more charming. Some even go to extremes to accept plastic surgery to forcefully meet the standards as a beauty. Moreover, we are all afraid of being old-fashioned or out of date, consequently tightly following the trend of fashion becomes our necessity. Tastes toward music, clothes and movies changes at such a tremendous speed ,while both children and adults are so eager to absorb information about the latest trend.

 

What are the possible reasons for the change of human behavior? The explanations, however, are not as evident as the facts, and a large variety of factors are responsible for them. Basically, the first one would be the increasing significance of appearance and the fashion contributing to it. Physical looking plays a key role in hunting for a job, personal relationship with coworkers, or even choosing a ideal date or marriage partner, by means of the magic power of first impression. Our society might become more superficial now. Another contributing factor might be cultural influence. In a large part as a consequence of individualism, appearance serves as the focus of self-portrait and self-esteem, after all, how could a decent person allow him or her to be overweighed or old fashioned, in someone’s idea?  Our modern culture emphasizing change pushes us to keep pace with what is going on in the outside world. Another reason may lie in the power of mass media , so many stars and models frequently appearing on TV or covers of magazines constantly remind us that your image is far from satisfactory and the advertisements made by those whose only goal is to sell products even spare no effort to reinforce such impressions. Can you resist those endless temptations?

 

In conclusion, one needs only to pay the slightest attention to fashion model on the covers of magazines or the flooding programs about latest music, movies or stars on the fashion show to realize the importance of appearance and fashion. Many factors lead to the change, and above all, it is somewhat a icon of modernization and popular culture.

 

 

 

 

agree or disagree with the following statement: it is more important to award students for effort (trying or hard working) than for achievement (good grades)

The assertion that awarding effort is more important than awarding achievement is emotionally appealing to us.  Yet after careful analysis, I tend to believe that this statement suffers from many severe flaws , so I disagree with it.

 

First and foremost, the feasibility of objectively evaluating effort poses challenge to this notion. Unlike some standard measurement of achievement such as exams, term papers or oral presentation, though far from satisfactory, effort by its nature is a subjective impression.  Just imagine how to judge how diligent a student is? Never absent from class? But how do you know he is really paying attention to the lecture? Or how many time he spend on studying? Who knows? By how many references found for a paper?

Then how to compare two students, one provides a long list of reference yet could not present his idea clearly while the other expresses his creative approach toward a certain topic without too many materials to rely on? Obviously, effort, though understandable to everyone, could only be measured with great ambiguity and arbitrariness.  In many cases, though

tries to fairly judge everyone's effort, he is more likely unable to convince other students, thereby causing doubt or even resentment, which is the last we want.

 

Furthermore, rewarding result is in accordance with social conventions. Apparently, in the real world, every social unit, like company, family or even nation, is compared with others by result instead of effort. If the newly assigned manager fails to improve the performance of the company, the only outcome is dismissing him without considering how much energy he put into the business affairs.  Though somewhat a bit emotionless at first glimpse, it is the only efficient way we devise to make our society function. As to students, they have no choice but learn to adapt to the social practice. And if on campus, professors attach excessive amount of significance to effort regardless of the final result, students may readily suppose that this rule also apply to the society, thus they may find themselves a bit incompatible with social rules, causing a unfavorable condition which could have been avoided.

 

Of course, there is no denying of the value of effort. It is admirable for teachers to recognize and encourage every trying student has made to motivate them for future work and develop their crucial self-esteem. It is more desirable for the teachers to give some personal praise to the diligent students, yet recognition and encouragement is something different from awards.

 

 

In conclusion, though emotionally appealing, awarding efforts fails to meet the standard of fair measurement and deviates from social conventions. Recognition of effort is desirable yet awarding result seems to be more practical  and meaningful.