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标题: 30岁文科女还能考虑去美国读书吗？ [打印本页]

作者: athena730 时间: 2015-2-10 15:13
标题: 30岁文科女还能考虑去美国读书吗？
目前年纪已经过了30，之前的工作是传媒相关，已婚未育，老公有可能会去美国读工科博士，在犹豫要不要一起去美国。毕竟年龄很大了，之前也一直是文科，在美国大概很难找到工作，但又实在不太满意国内的大环境。本科是北京一所知名大学，毕业后是知名国企工作。但是文科背景和年龄真心是软肋。不知道我这种情况还能不能奢望去美国读书并且留在当地工作？？已经纠结了数日了，求各位给指导！

作者: markgm 时间: 2015-2-10 15:26
去吧，有梦想就去实现，我比你岁数还大。

作者: hkjenny 时间: 2015-2-10 20:37
本人觉得，若你老公可以在美国找到很高薪水的工作。你就值得为了家庭去美国，首先要团聚。你就要放弃国内安定的工作。之后，你也不要总和国内的同事联系，因为你心理上肯定有落差。也不要埋怨放弃了稳定，选择了不知未来和动荡的漂泊路线。
你的老公如果未来还是回国发展，那你就应该守住这个工作，尤其你的年龄和你专业的不占优势。如果再找个得体的稳定体系内工作，难度非常大。很多体系内工作是不接受30多岁的人。你出去再回来会觉得无处安置的感觉，这样你会更加困惑或者埋怨几年前的决定。我也建议你老公分析下这个年龄出国后是想永远在外面，还是回来。是否可确保工作地位有明显的提升。你要知道回国的发展，受到很多因素的限制，包括年龄、社会关系等必要因素以及是否接受国外回来的洋文凭等客观问题。你们的年龄也正处于国内人考虑稳定的年龄段，这么无规划的出国很有可能是毁灭一个家庭，而不是把家庭带入辉煌。希望你考虑清楚。出国是年轻人做的事，不太适合中年人。

作者: hkjenny 时间: 2015-2-10 20:46

markgm 发表于 2015-2-10 15:26
去吧，有梦想就去实现，我比你岁数还大。

梦想是给非常理想主义的人来实现的。大多人是脚踏地实地的过日子。离不开财富和家庭。所以一个光靠理想和梦想生活的人，是虚幻的，是有可能饿死的。或者说过的并不怎么样的。在外国，很多人崇拜梦想吗？其实也不多。梦想都是吹出来的，不切实际的。梦想确实不能拖，要趁年轻，十几或20几岁去实现，而不是等到中年以后拖家带口，去自私的为了所谓的梦想而冒险。

作者: loveskyfall 时间: 2016-5-12 20:12
Mark一下！

作者: gordonmwu 时间: 2016-5-12 22:13
based on your current situation, a few days struggle is not enough to make a decision.  keep "struggling" for a few months, consider all aspects of your life, career, and marriage, and then make a decision.

if your husband is doing a PhD here, he won't be done for another 5 years and most likely you will be geographically restricted by where he is.  and he won't be financially contributing enough to the family either. the most important thing for you to do now is to talk to your husband and openly discuss his plans for this family. once you both agree on the plan, then think about what to do next.

school wise, i've seen quite some female MBAs getting married and had babies during the 2 years of studies.  i always wonder how and why they did it. but surprisingly enough, they usually end up with good jobs too. it's quite amazing to me.

each individual is different. for those who have families it's even more complicated. i'm not going to encourage you to "chase the dream" before you can decide what is your dream.

作者: 宥宥妈更努力 时间: 2016-5-18 21:13

gordonmwu 发表于 2016-5-12 22:13
based on your current situation, a few days struggle is not enough to make a decision. keep "strugg ...

i am married and have a baby , yeah ,i am 29 . i don't like my current job .
sometimes i feel very sad , i work hard but i can never get higher in my job ,and what's worse ,i get low paid . so i still have a dream ,i want change , i want to get a new chance

作者: gordonmwu 时间: 2016-5-18 21:33

宥宥妈更努力发表于 2016-5-18 21:13
i am married and have a baby , yeah ,i am 29 . i don't like my current job .
sometimes i feel ver ...

working hard but never get paid, everyone whines about this, including myself. lol.

give me a bit details about yourself and maybe i can share with you some of my own experience or what i've seen.

good luck.

作者: zbwsb 时间: 2016-5-24 08:44
哎 30岁了公司女同事也30岁结婚了不如趁年轻多读点吧

作者: 九研 时间: 2017-1-6 09:08
费用不是问题，可以出去。男士工科博士起码得4-5年，已婚未育的情况怎么也得创造条件生孩子为首要。题主可以申请一个tesol 一年制，难度不大，同时又不耽误家庭。

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