大部分在国外的下一代，主流进不去，回国又“不适应”，里外不是人，很尴尬。
-- by 会员 zbb88 (2010/6/22 14:24:04)
That is absolutely true. Regarding your kids, the real decision is not whether or not they can get a western education or live in the U.S. for a while, the decision is whether or not you want your kids to be Americans? I have many ABC friends whose parents initially came here just to work. After their kids were born, they naturally sent them to American pre-schools, then K-12, then college...essentially raising a second generation that barely understands the Chinese language or culture. Of course, there are parents that send their kids to Sunday Chinese schools, but those lessons are soon forgotten because becoming mainstream here means becoming less Asian and more American.
Even multinational corporations want to hire Chinese locals for jobs in China now days, so there is almost no chance of foreign born kids returning to China. They will have to forge their own path in a white dominated society and try to find their own identity (and trust me it isn't easy. They are not Chinese, but they are not quite full-blown American either. They are just stuck in this mythical paradigm of the model minority). They will have to shoulder everything good or bad that comes along with living in a different country. Immigration is not as simple as "getting a better job" or "getting a better education". It means plucking your roots from one country and starting over in a different place. I think it was easier at the turn of the century when people were so poor and had little to lose. Now days it means giving up a lot more for a life that may or may not be better, and for one that you may or may not necessarily want.
I think this is what many people don't get. When they think about moving to a different country, they only think about reasons such as "oh the environment is less polluted there" or "oh the schools are better there". While those things are mostly true, living at a place is not like an a la carte menu, from which you can just pick the things you like. Immigration comes in a package. Are you willing to accept the cultural difference and isolation? Are you willing to give up the convenience you have now? Are you willing to raise your kids as citizens of another country, and have your future generations completely cutoff from your homeland? You better be, because all those come with the nicer air, the more stable job, and all the benefits. Just make sure you think through it.
-- by 会员 REgirl07 (2010/6/22 16:16:08)
我和你老公基本上一模一样的背景了，为了老婆transfer回香港工作，已经非常后悔！基本上事业就没啥盼头了。更加不要说回大陆工作。强烈建议你出国工作一下，对比一下，知道个差别然后再选择。总比你继续“蹉跎岁月”强。那么多人希望有个出去体验的机会，都在努力奋斗，你眼前就有一个，却在犹豫，希望日后你不会朗诵至尊宝的台词来调侃自己。
说自己已经有了朋友圈，有了体面的工作，我觉得都是借口。朋友圈是与生具来的吗？到哪里不能认识朋友？工作上，你努力奋斗有了事业，难道你老公的事业是天上掉下来砸他头上的馅饼？做选择要看大局。如果双方满足于这样蹉跎下去，那就别出去了。
另，11w刀足够在美国支撑一个不错的家庭了，说不定比你在北京活得还体面(具体要看你在美国哪个城市)。觉得自在就把父母也接过去，不爽了就回国。我不觉得你们会因此而失去什么。你们现在起码还有两个options，如果他回国了，就没有选择的余地了。
过来人，仅供参考！
-- by 会员 wwto (2010/6/21 8:06:10)
其实如果在加州，特别是硅谷一带生活还是挺不错的，如果是L1签证，好像申请绿卡特别快，反正我一哥们就是这么搞定的。另外，美国的生活成本没那么高。我觉得如果本来比较内向，而且喜欢钻研技术的人，在美国做技术绝对比在中国做轻松，工作量少而且容易，人际关系也比较简单（当然金融机构，尤其是投行就复杂的多）。要是一心想做大事，想往上走的人，那美国实在是不合适... 所以看人了，我觉得没有这么可怕，另外，在美国赚的钱还可以拿来还中国的房贷，呵呵... 对了，如果绿卡弄完了，可以去做IT咨询，那一年得有20万美元左右，当然技术的不错。哎，可惜俺就是不喜欢技术，所以没走这条路，现在还时不时的被当年的兄弟们嘲笑一把，说我就是受苦的命呀，谁叫我爱折腾呢...
-- by 会员 dtiger (2010/7/3 7:25:06)
的确，如ningchunlong所说，我要出去绝对不是一两年出去晃晃的打算，付出的代价太大，我已经过了可以那么随性生活的年龄，毕竟生活是真实且现实的。